Re: school teasing/picking on kids

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, I don't see that you son should have to learn to endure the crap from the other students. It could also mess up his life for his adult years. still has problems dealing with how she was treated in school and I started her on Independent Study when she was in the 6th grade. She went back to regular school twice and was home again in less than a month each time. She had kids that threatened to beat her and her cousins up just because they did not like where they chose to eat their lunch. now we know that she was/is bipolar but that was still no excuse. She only wanted to be friends/have friends. While she cannot handle homeschooling , neither of us want him going through what she did and he has had similar problems.

Let him get 'used' to the hard lessons in life when he is older. Maybe he can deal with it better then. I

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From: laha1960@...

My son has had an IEP since kindergarten. He is Aspergers and ADHD, gets all As and does well, but is an easy target to get picked on. Now, I admire you for the clause that states that teachers will monitor and help him when teasing happens, however, at our school, my son still has these problems as most of the time the teacher or aides in the classroom do not notice and arent there when things happen. If they even walk away from a volleyball game for instance in PE, my son said that kids are yelling at him when he misses the ball and furthermore they dont let him serve because he missed the ball etc. I have told the school about a few incidents, and usually this is what happens, the kid is asked if he did it or talked to, and sometimes the school does nothing . Generally , my son feels picked on and I dont know how to tell the school without always feeling like they think I am being a pesty mom. Also, I want my son to understand first of all that he is not the only one picked on as this is the age when many moms are telling me that their kids feel the same way. Also, I want my son to be able to endure this and know how to tolerate it and just let it roll off his back and hold his head up. After all, if I homeschool him, and take him away from these problems , which I have thought of doing, then that is fine, but it still didnt teach him the valuable tools that he needs to learn to deal with situations of this nature in life. I cant teach him all that at home and iut is sometimes only taught be experience. The hardest lessons I have learned in life that stuck with me where ones that I had to often learn the hard way, not the easy cushy way. Oh, but I worry still as my son is angered by the kids and talks about how he is going to one day lash out at them. He doesnt talk violently and has never done anything violent, but he just has that terrible pain. I have PT conf at the school tomorrow and Friday and the junior high is open to talk to the teachers who are in teh cafeteria. So, I am hoping to find a few and havea good talk.Any suggestions from anyone, please write me at my email address. Thanks much in IL :_)