response to Pam

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In a message dated 12/27/02 7:23:38 AM, Pam wrote:

<< Thank you Jeff for sharing your story, it means a lot to me. I've had 6

back surgeries and taking care of my grandson has been a big struggle at

times. And yes he is a very angry child and with good reason. Sometimes it

is hard to keep your wits (not sure I have any to start with) about you when

you are taking pain med every day, but it is definitely being a blesses

experience.

Pam >>

I just realised this email wasnt sent out when it was supposed to. If for

some reason this is a duplicate, I appologize.

((((Pam, everyone))))) As I mentioned before, I am disabled too, with custody

of my 20 month old grandson. My 18 year old daughter, a senior in high school

is also pregnant, due April 5th. I love babies and all children, but it is a

disappointment to me that she is having a baby at such a young age. It is

also frightening to me, because I know that ultimately, I will be sharing the

major responsibility of caring for the baby, which is physically demanding.

I'm not sure which is worse, chasing after a toddler, or the constant bending

(I have bad back and knees) to pick up, lay down, change infant etc . But my

daughter does want to finish school, and I have to support that. After

graduation (and I DO hope she can graduate because she struggles with school

as it is, and I am sure the pregnancy and delivery will be a huge impact on

her studies), she and her boyfriend will look for an apartment. Even at that

point, we hope that she will go to community college so she can have

something to fall back on. In any event, it will be alot of work, and so

physically demanding, I actually dread it while at the same time, I am filled

with joy at the thought of a new baby. Hard to make sense out of, huh?

LOL......anyway, if it were not for the baby I am raising now, I would not

get up in the mornings. They say everything happens for a reason. I have to

believe that now, because my pain was so unbearable before my grandson was in

the picture, that I was truly depressed, and somewhat suicidal. So, I guess

these babies are here to save me in a way. I just want to say that I am here

to listen for everyone, but I can especially sympathize with disabled

grandparents, lol, especially us young ones

Just venting here, thanks for listening.

Janie

" A wise man learns something new everyday.

The fool knows it all already. "

-- Unknown