You should agree with me

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I am angry at xxx because he doesn´t agree with me.I want xxx to

think that I know what is true and admire me. xxx should always say

nice things to me and never question me. I need xxx to be kind,

patient and loving. xxx is dishonest. He lies to himself and to me.

I refuse to accept that xxx doesn´t agree with me.

xxx doesn´t agree with me. Is it true? Yes. That is what I hear. Can

I absolutely know that it´s true? Can I be absoutely sure of what´s

going on in other peoples brains? No I can´t. I can´t know if that

is true. How do I react when I think that xxx doesn´t agree with me?

I get very angry and sad when he doesn´t. I want to hurt him. I want

to prove I´m right. How would I feel if I wasn´t able to think that

thought? I wouldn´t care if he agrees or not. I would be able to

listen with calm to what he says. His approval to what I think

wouldn´t be important. TA: I am angry at myself because I don´t

agree with xxx. I am angry at myself because I don´t agree with

myself.

xxx should think that I know what´s right and admire me. Is it true?

No. Maybe he doesn´t sometimes and if he doesn´t that´s what is

real. How do I react when I think that thought? I think he is wrong.

I get angry. I think he is stupid. I don´t admire him at all. And

not myself either. How would I feel if I wasn´t able to think that

thougt? Calm. Honest. No tension in my body. TA: xxx shouldn´t think

that I know what´s right and he shouldn´t admire me. I should think

he knows what´s right and admire him. I should think that I know

what´s right and admire me.

xxx should always say nice things to me and never question me. Is it

true? No. How can I know what is best for him to do? I can´t. How do

I react when I think that? I try to manipulate him to do what I

want. I get angry and disappointed when he doesn´t act the way I

want to. How would I feel if I was unable to think that thought? I

would accept whatever he says to me. I wouldn´t take it personal. I

would ask myself if what he says is true to me and be satisfied

whatever the answer will be. TA: xxx shouldn´t say nice things to me

and he should question me. I should say nice things to xxx and not

question him. I should say nice things to myself and not question me.

I need xxx to be kind, patient and loving. Is that true? No. I´m

perfectly fine without it. And can I be absolutely sure he is not?

No. I can´t be sure of what he is feeling or thinking or of what his

intentions are. Sometimes I´m not even sure what I am thinking and

feeling. How do I react when I think I need those things? My whole

body get tense. I think something dangerous is going to happen if I

don´t get what I need. How would I feel if I was unable to think

this thought? I would allow xxx to be the way he is and not try to

change him. I would be happy without his love. TA: I don´t need xxx

to be kind, patient and loving. I need me to be nice, patient and

loving to xxx and to myself.

xxx is dishonest. He lies to himself and to me. Is it true? I don´t

know. Can you absolutely know that it´s true? No, I can´t. And even

if he is lying, whose buisness is that? It´s his, not mine. How do I

react when I think he is lying to me? I get angry at him. I call him

bad things, even if it´s just in my head. I don´t treat him very

well. How would I feel if I was unable to think this thought? I

would be much more kinder and loving, both to him and to myself.

Much more understanding. TA: xxx is not dishonest and isn´t lying. I

am dishonest and lie when I think he is.

I refuse to accept that xxx doesn´t agree with me. TA: I am willing

to accept that xxx doesn´t agree with me. I look forward to accept

that xxx doesn´t agree with me.