Worst parents became the best

[Guest guest]

Just wanna share a little something with you about how deep the work

actually can work in ons´s life. For 36 years I thought I had the

worst parents ever. I promise you. They did everything wrong. You

could open any book about parenting and there they were, under the

section " how to hurt your child the most " . Then the work found me

for almost a year ago, and I followed s prescriptions, I did

the work for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I did very little work on

my dad and none on my mum. I had no contact with my father and very

little, very chilly contact with my mother.

But the work was already there and had done it´s job, so when I

found out a couple of mounth ago that my dad had brain canser and

maybe not so much time left to live, me and my sister went to the

island where our (divorcered) parents still live. I didn´t know what

would happen. I was nervous. First we visited mum. When I saw her I

realised she was innocent, she was very mentally ill while we were

growing up you see. I realised she had not chosen that. I realised

that there was nothing I had to forgive her for and that she had

loved me the whole time. My understanding was 100%. My mind was as

clear as a cloudfree sky. And I told her all my insights and she

begun to cry. The wall between us was gone.

In the middle of this conversation my father called. He wanted to

talk to me. In that moment I realised my tremendous hate for him

finally had let go of me. I used to wish him dead and dreamed how I

hunted him with a gun and shot him down. We talked, he cried, I told

him how much I loved him. Then we spend several days together the

whole family and it struck me over and over again that I had just

the family I had always wished for. Today I send a christmas present

to my parents and I had the honour to write on the card: " to the

best parents ever " .

This is for me one of the most amazing things the work has done for

me. 4 questions and a turnaround.... Judge your neighbour, write it

down... A total change of perspective, and all the love that is

pumping through every vein in my body... truly amazing, and I can

only agree with when she says that reality is always better

than our stories. Sometimes my old stories about my family comes

back. The good news are that they never stay for long nowadays, and

there is a change in how I look at them. I see them as sad little

friends visiting, and I also know they are not for real , so

sometimes they even makes me laugh.

Thanks for listening!

Love to you all,