From accepting reality to percieving perfectness

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Ok I get part of this. I get that arguing with reality is insane. It does not

work

and is hurtful.

But how do I get from there to knowing/experiencing that reality is always

good; that god is everthing and god is good

Hubby does not want a 3rd child. Ok Ain t arguing with him nor with the fact

that i wont have another child. But that does not mean that not having one is

good

Can anyone help

Brigitte

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>

> Ok I get part of this. I get that arguing with reality is insane.

> It does not work and is hurtful.

>

> But how do I get from there to knowing/experiencing that reality is

> always good; that god is everthing and god is good

>

> Hubby does not want a 3rd child. Ok Ain t arguing with him nor

> with the fact that i wont have another child. But that does not

> mean that not having one is good

>

> Can anyone help

>

Hi Brigitte,

Here is my 2 cents worth, since you asked

I get to know that reality is always good by REALLY doing the Work.

It could look something like the folowing.

" Caroline should have my 3rd child. "

Is it true? Yes.

Can I absolutely know that it is true. Well ... no. I can't know

what's best for Caroline, or for her path. Maybe two babies are

enough for her to handle. If I REALLY love Caroline I want what makes

her happy. I am being arrogant and selfish to inflict my views on her

(not that it is even possible to make someone believe what I believe).

How do I feel when I believe this thought? Angry, upset, controlling,

out of my business. Gernerally not good.

Can I see a peaceful reason to believe this thought? No.

Who would I be if I could not think this thought? Peaceful, calm and

more loving of Caroline.

TA.

" Caroline should not have my 3rd child. " Yes. That sounds truer. She

should not have another child until she does. Reality rules.

" I should have my 3rd child. " Yes. I could be a foster parent for a

child in Africa. I could volunteer to work with young children who

have no parents. I could join a kids help hotline.

Realizations: What is upsetting me is not the fact that Caroline is

not having my 3rd child. It's my believing the thought that Caroline

should have my 3rd child. Our marriage is perfect as it always was,

its just my thinking which is confused.

" Sanity doesn't suffer, ever . . . ever! Sanity doesn't suffer,

ever, ever! Isn't that lovely? " Byron

[Guest guest]

Brigitte~ The place I begin is how I feel when someone says something

that I don't like...When I hear my husband say that he doesn't want

children and I don't have a reaction...then I know I feel the same way

and I'm in a good space. But if I hear him report that he doesn't want

children and I feel upset and angry...then I listen to the shoulds and

needs and wants that are coming into play....*he should agree* *he's

just giving me a hard time* *he's not happy in our marriage*...hope

that helps.

love nne

>

> Ok I get part of this. I get that arguing with reality is insane.

It does not work

> and is hurtful.

>

> But how do I get from there to knowing/experiencing that reality is

always

> good; that god is everthing and god is good

>

> Hubby does not want a 3rd child. Ok Ain t arguing with him nor with

the fact

> that i wont have another child. But that does not mean that not

having one is

> good

>

> Can anyone help

>

> Brigitte

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Dear Brigitte,

what does it feel like?

" I want a third child " ? - Is that true? Are you pregnant? What does

your wanting a third child have to do with you husband.

What I get from you, is that there is something you want *more* than a

third child.

Love,

Am 21.11.2004 um 20:04 schrieb Brigitte:

>

>

> Ok I get part of this. I get that arguing with reality is insane. It

> does not work

> and is hurtful.

>

> But how do I get from there to knowing/experiencing that reality is

> always

> good; that god is everthing and god is good

>

> Hubby does not want a 3rd child. Ok Ain t arguing with him nor with

> the fact

> that i wont have another child. But that does not mean that not

> having one is

> good

>

> Can anyone help

>

> Brigitte