judgements about group

[Guest guest]

Hi Group,

I am so full of judgements concerning this group right now that it is almost

making me sick. I am pissed and I'd love to see what this is really about for

me.

I am so sick of Tami and flirting and using their sexuality to get

attention ... and I am so sick of the men on this list actually going for it and

responding to it rather than helping these women question the thoughts that lead

them to believe that they have to behave this way in order to have their needs

met...gggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!

2 things stand out for me here: women (on this list) should not use sex to get

what they want.....men (on this list) should help women see the truth...

So...

Tami and (Women) should not use their sexuality to try and get their needs

met...*smile*

is it true? sit with this....no. I see that we all do whatever we feel we need

to to try and get our 'needs' met. If I really believe I need something, I will

do anything in my power to try and get it...

How does believing this thought make me feel, where do I feel it in my body? How

do I treat others and myself when I believe this thought?

I feel angry, upset, judgemental. Tight in the throat and constricted in the

chest and stomach area. When my daughter was home for lunch I could hardly

focus on her because I was so angry with the recent posts...

I feel very seperate from Tami and and from women in general who still

believe that they need to be sexual to get what they need rather than just

enjoying their sexuality for its own sake...I am so in their business. This is

painful to me. This seperates me from my own feelings of sexuality..and

compassion, and understanding...

Who would I be without this thought?

I would be able to see/feel the love in Tami and that others here are able

to feel/see (more consistently). .I would see them being themselves and be fine

with that. I would realise that i have no idea what they are really

doing....yes, I dont even know if it is true that they are using their sexuality

for anything...I would simply see people expressing themselves and being where

they are at. I would be free to notice what I do with my own sexual feelings

because I wouldnt be so caught up in their business...lol..so true.

T.A.'s Tami and (women) should use their sexuallity to try and get what

they think they need. Yes, because reality is that we all do what we do until

we learn a better way or see the truth of it.

T.A. Tami and are not using their sexuality to try and get their needs

met. This could be just as true. Again, I see that I have no idea what they are

Really doing, no matter how it appears to me. I am seeing this as my story.

T.A. I should not use my sexuality to try and get my needs met.

THis is my religion..my morality, and I see that it is for me to try and live.

I see where I have often done this in my life and how harshly I judge myself for

it.

I look forward to seeing TAmi and (or any woman) using sex to try and get

what they want. If it bothers me I can question my own thinking about it....

HHHmmm. Its a start.

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