I hate my body

[Guest guest]

I am a confsed and very sad 35-year old women. I hate my body. I

keep thinking " if I only lost some weight I would be happy " . I have

done The work on this thoughts but I guess it takes time. I don´t

want to go out because I am terrified of what people might think of

my looks. And I get sad every time I look in the mirror.

Please do respond!

Hugs from Skogsnuvan (which is swedish and means forrestfaerie)

[Guest guest]

> I am a confsed and very sad 35-year old women. I hate my body. I

> keep thinking " if I only lost some weight I would be happy " . I have

> done The work on this thoughts but I guess it takes time. I don´t

> want to go out because I am terrified of what people might think of

> my looks. And I get sad every time I look in the mirror.

> Please do respond!

Hi Skogsnuvan,

The nightmare of believing lies about your body can be terrifying.

You said " I hate my body " . Is that true? Would it be truer to say " I

have hateful thoughts about my body " ? In my experience bodies can

never be a problem. Bodies are perfectly innocent, they don't

complain or get angry, they just heal and maintain themselves. Its my

THINKING about my body which causes me pain, especially when it

argues with what is.

Weighing 200 pounds is not a problem, until I believe a thought that

says: " if I weighed 100 pounds I would be happier " . If weighing 100

pounds made someone happy, then everyone who weighed 100 pounds would

be happy. The truth is that the people who weigh 100 pounds are not

automatically happy, their happiness depends on their thinking just

as much as a 200 pound person. Even if you lost the weight can you

really know that you would be happy. I know someone who lost a lot of

weight who was then miserable, because of the saggy skin she was left

with. Changing the body never works because in the end the body is

going to get sick and die, whatever you do! However, if you undo the

painful concepts you are holding about your body, you could move

through growing " old " or " fat " gracefully without any suffering.

One final thought, how could looking at yourself in the mirror

possibly make you sad? Isn't it the lies you are believing about your

body that are really making you sad? If I look in the mirror and see

anything else but perfection, then I know I am confused and have more

inquiry to do. LOL!

Loving what is, angel, and that would be you.

Neo

[Guest guest]

> > I am a confsed and very sad 35-year old women. I hate my body. I

> > keep thinking " if I only lost some weight I would be happy " . I

have

> > done The work on this thoughts but I guess it takes time. I

don´t

> > want to go out because I am terrified of what people might think

of

> > my looks. And I get sad every time I look in the mirror.

> > Please do respond!

>

>

> Hi Skogsnuvan,

>

> The nightmare of believing lies about your body can be terrifying.

>

> You said " I hate my body " . Is that true? Would it be truer to

say " I

> have hateful thoughts about my body " ? In my experience bodies can

> never be a problem. Bodies are perfectly innocent, they don't

> complain or get angry, they just heal and maintain themselves. Its

my

> THINKING about my body which causes me pain, especially when it

> argues with what is.

>

> Weighing 200 pounds is not a problem, until I believe a thought

that

> says: " if I weighed 100 pounds I would be happier " . If weighing

100

> pounds made someone happy, then everyone who weighed 100 pounds

would

> be happy. The truth is that the people who weigh 100 pounds are

not

> automatically happy, their happiness depends on their thinking

just

> as much as a 200 pound person. Even if you lost the weight can you

> really know that you would be happy. I know someone who lost a lot

of

> weight who was then miserable, because of the saggy skin she was

left

> with. Changing the body never works because in the end the body is

> going to get sick and die, whatever you do! However, if you undo

the

> painful concepts you are holding about your body, you could move

> through growing " old " or " fat " gracefully without any suffering.

>

> One final thought, how could looking at yourself in the mirror

> possibly make you sad? Isn't it the lies you are believing about

your

> body that are really making you sad? If I look in the mirror and

see

> anything else but perfection, then I know I am confused and have

more

> inquiry to do. LOL!

>

> Loving what is, angel, and that would be you.

>

>

> Neo

Dear Neo!

Thank you so much! The first thing I did when I woke up this morning

was to get to the computer. Then I read your post and smiled and

felt gratefull. What a wonderful way to start my day! I definitly

have more inquiry to do, a lot more. I believe the lies I have been

telling myself about my body very strongly. Perhaps it´s the biggest

lie I ever told anyone...=)

However, I have some questions. How do one handle peoples attitude

against overweight people? I hear people around me, people on TV and

even myself make malicious remarks of fat people all the time.

Everytime I meet people I am afraid that they are going to think or

say something condescending about my weight or my body. I know I

can´t stop them from saying or thinking whatever it is they want to

say or think about me, so how do I do not to get hurt? Or will I not

care anymore when I have been doing the work on this?

Oh, this thoughts.... They trouble me so much! I hate my thoughts!

=))

Thank you for listening!

Love, Forrest faerie

[Guest guest]

Dear Forrest Faerie,

Here are some thoughts.

You said: " However, I have some questions. How do one handle peoples

attitude against overweight people?

Who's business is other people's attitudes?

When you are in their business, there is no one home taking care of

your business (i.e.: your thinking) and when there is no one at home

we get lonely and depressed.

You might try doing a worksheet on: " I need to handle peoples

attitude against overweight people? "

You said: " I hear people around me, people on TV and

even myself make malicious remarks of fat people all the time. "

How would it be if we turned that statement around? Like this:

" I hear my thinking making malicious remarks of me being too fat all

the time. " So maybe they are simply agreeing with you?

So all of these remarks are malicious? Is that true? Could it be

that some of them could just be speaking the Truth and your thinking

tells you that they are malicious?

You said: " Everytime I meet people I am afraid that they are going to

think or say something condescending about my weight or my body. "

How about a turn around like: " Everytime I meet people I am afraid

that I am going to think or say something condescending about my

weight or my body. "

You said: " I know I can´t stop them from saying or thinking whatever

it is they want to say or think about me, so how do I do not to get

hurt? "

A turnaround could be: " I know I can´t stop my thinking from saying

or thinking whatever it is it wants to say or think about me, so how

do I do not to get hurt? "

You inquire and find out the Truth. The Truth will set you free.

You said: " Or will I not care anymore when I have been doing the work

on this? "

I don't know sweetheart? It could be worth a try.

So, you need to lose weight to be happy? Is that true?

When you have this thought, then where does your mind go?

When do you go to get something to eat?

When do you want to pull the covers over your head?

Also, you could try doing The Work on the following statements:

This body is me, Is that true?

This thinking is mine, Is that true?

Either you are the perfect weight right now or else God has made a

terrible mistake. Someone has to be your weight and you are it until

you are not. Perfect!

Love and Blessings Beautiful, Steve D.

> > > I am a confsed and very sad 35-year old women. I hate my body.

I

> > > keep thinking " if I only lost some weight I would be happy " . I

> have

> > > done The work on this thoughts but I guess it takes time. I

> don´t

> > > want to go out because I am terrified of what people might

think

> of

> > > my looks. And I get sad every time I look in the mirror.

> > > Please do respond!

> >

> >

> > Hi Skogsnuvan,

> >

> > The nightmare of believing lies about your body can be terrifying.

> >

> > You said " I hate my body " . Is that true? Would it be truer to

> say " I

> > have hateful thoughts about my body " ? In my experience bodies can

> > never be a problem. Bodies are perfectly innocent, they don't

> > complain or get angry, they just heal and maintain themselves.

Its

> my

> > THINKING about my body which causes me pain, especially when it

> > argues with what is.

> >

> > Weighing 200 pounds is not a problem, until I believe a thought

> that

> > says: " if I weighed 100 pounds I would be happier " . If weighing

> 100

> > pounds made someone happy, then everyone who weighed 100 pounds

> would

> > be happy. The truth is that the people who weigh 100 pounds are

> not

> > automatically happy, their happiness depends on their thinking

> just

> > as much as a 200 pound person. Even if you lost the weight can

you

> > really know that you would be happy. I know someone who lost a

lot

> of

> > weight who was then miserable, because of the saggy skin she was

> left

> > with. Changing the body never works because in the end the body

is

> > going to get sick and die, whatever you do! However, if you undo

> the

> > painful concepts you are holding about your body, you could move

> > through growing " old " or " fat " gracefully without any suffering.

> >

> > One final thought, how could looking at yourself in the mirror

> > possibly make you sad? Isn't it the lies you are believing about

> your

> > body that are really making you sad? If I look in the mirror and

> see

> > anything else but perfection, then I know I am confused and have

> more

> > inquiry to do. LOL!

> >

> > Loving what is, angel, and that would be you.

> >

> >

> > Neo

>

> Dear Neo!

> Thank you so much! The first thing I did when I woke up this

morning

> was to get to the computer. Then I read your post and smiled and

> felt gratefull. What a wonderful way to start my day! I definitly

> have more inquiry to do, a lot more. I believe the lies I have been

> telling myself about my body very strongly. Perhaps it´s the

biggest

> lie I ever told anyone...=)

>

> However, I have some questions. How do one handle peoples attitude

> against overweight people? I hear people around me, people on TV

and

> even myself make malicious remarks of fat people all the time.

> Everytime I meet people I am afraid that they are going to think or

> say something condescending about my weight or my body. I know I

> can´t stop them from saying or thinking whatever it is they want to

> say or think about me, so how do I do not to get hurt? Or will I

not

> care anymore when I have been doing the work on this?

>

> Oh, this thoughts.... They trouble me so much! I hate my thoughts!

> =))

> Thank you for listening!

> Love, Forrest faerie