Re: Getting my parents back - Steve

[Guest guest]

Dearest Steve,

thank you for your kind words! This is a miraculous story for me

too. I had never thought it would be possible to totally get rid of

more than 20 years of anger and dissapointment. I speak to my father

every day now and my mother several times a week. There is no one I

hate right now, and my heart feels very light, very open. Hate and

anger really close your heart, or at least that´s how it felt for me.

Many hugs,

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> > I want to share a happy story of mine with you all and tell you

how

> > the work has worked in my life. I grew up with a psycotic mother

> and

> > a father who drank too much and hit us and was very harsh. As a

> > grown up I couldn´t forgive my parents and all I wanted was to

> have;

> > money, things, love and understaning, from them. I couldn´t get

> > enough. I was always dissapionted at them. It ended up with me

> > breaking the contact with both of them several years ago. Since

> then

> > I have been filled with bitterness and anger towards my parents.

A

> > couple of weeks ago my mother called me and told me that my

father

> > has brain canser. Me and my sister decided to go to the island

> where

> > we grew up and where our parents still live. Then everything

> > happened very fast. I had a long talk with my mother. I

understood

> > why she had been avoiding me; she had been terrified of all my

> > criticism. Suddenly I saw a new person sitting infront of me. A

> > human, just like me, who wanted to love me, if I just let her.

> Then,

> > in the middle of the conversation, the phone rang, and it was my

> > father and he wanted to speak with me. In that moment all my old

> > hatred let go of me. He cried on the phone and all I felt for

him

> > was love. My and my sister spend a lot of time with our parents

the

> > remaning days and it was days filled with love and joy. In so

many

> > years I have wished I had kind and loving parents who cares

about

> me

> > and now all of a sudden I have everything I want and more. I

> believe

> > the work has helped me to be ready to let go of all the old

> thoughts

> > about my parents that stoped me from loving them. I even love

and

> > laugh at things they do that used to annoy me before. Because it

is

> > who they are, their unic personality. And finally I just have to

> > tell you another funny thing. A couple of weeks ago I reported

my

> > interest to be a caller on the BK radio show. I was going to do

the

> > work on my father, how much I hated him etc. When I got home

from

> my

> > trip I had recieved an e-mail that they wanted me as a caller on

> one

> > of the days I was away... Well, well... I guess reality was

better

> > (seeing my father than doing the work on him:)), again!

> >

> > All my love,

> >

[Guest guest]

> There is no one I hate right now, and my heart feels very light,

> very open.

What, you don't hate Bush!

That will be very disappointing news to the Kerry support group on

this list. LOL ....

" Sanity doesn't suffer, ever . . . ever! Sanity doesn't suffer,

ever, ever! Isn't that lovely? " Byron

[Guest guest]

Dear :

Thank you, sweetheart for sharing your story with us!!

Something you said:

" I had never thought it would be possible to totally get rid of

more than 20 years of anger and dissapointment. "

Reminded me that we don't have to get rid of 20 years of anger, etc.

We only have to inquire into the thought that is arising NOW! Isn't

that great! It makes no difference how long we have entertained a

concept! It can be undone, RIGHT NOW!

Thank you !

Love & Hugs, Steve D.

> > >

> > > Hi everyone,

> > > I want to share a happy story of mine with you all and tell you

> how

> > > the work has worked in my life. I grew up with a psycotic

mother

> > and

> > > a father who drank too much and hit us and was very harsh. As a

> > > grown up I couldn´t forgive my parents and all I wanted was to

> > have;

> > > money, things, love and understaning, from them. I couldn´t get

> > > enough. I was always dissapionted at them. It ended up with me

> > > breaking the contact with both of them several years ago. Since

> > then

> > > I have been filled with bitterness and anger towards my

parents.

> A

> > > couple of weeks ago my mother called me and told me that my

> father

> > > has brain canser. Me and my sister decided to go to the island

> > where

> > > we grew up and where our parents still live. Then everything

> > > happened very fast. I had a long talk with my mother. I

> understood

> > > why she had been avoiding me; she had been terrified of all my

> > > criticism. Suddenly I saw a new person sitting infront of me. A

> > > human, just like me, who wanted to love me, if I just let her.

> > Then,

> > > in the middle of the conversation, the phone rang, and it was

my

> > > father and he wanted to speak with me. In that moment all my

old

> > > hatred let go of me. He cried on the phone and all I felt for

> him

> > > was love. My and my sister spend a lot of time with our parents

> the

> > > remaning days and it was days filled with love and joy. In so

> many

> > > years I have wished I had kind and loving parents who cares

> about

> > me

> > > and now all of a sudden I have everything I want and more. I

> > believe

> > > the work has helped me to be ready to let go of all the old

> > thoughts

> > > about my parents that stoped me from loving them. I even love

> and

> > > laugh at things they do that used to annoy me before. Because

it

> is

> > > who they are, their unic personality. And finally I just have

to

> > > tell you another funny thing. A couple of weeks ago I reported

> my

> > > interest to be a caller on the BK radio show. I was going to do

> the

> > > work on my father, how much I hated him etc. When I got home

> from

> > my

> > > trip I had recieved an e-mail that they wanted me as a caller

on

> > one

> > > of the days I was away... Well, well... I guess reality was

> better

> > > (seeing my father than doing the work on him:)), again!

> > >

> > > All my love,

> > >

[Guest guest]

> > > >

> > > > Hi everyone,

> > > > I want to share a happy story of mine with you all and tell

you

> > how

> > > > the work has worked in my life. I grew up with a psycotic

> mother

> > > and

> > > > a father who drank too much and hit us and was very

harsh. As a

> > > > grown up I couldn´t forgive my parents and all I wanted

was to

> > > have;

> > > > money, things, love and understaning, from them. I

couldn´t get

> > > > enough. I was always dissapionted at them. It ended up

with me

> > > > breaking the contact with both of them several years ago.

Since

> > > then

> > > > I have been filled with bitterness and anger towards my

> parents.

> > A

> > > > couple of weeks ago my mother called me and told me

that my

> > father

> > > > has brain canser. Me and my sister decided to go to the

island

> > > where

> > > > we grew up and where our parents still live. Then

everything

> > > > happened very fast. I had a long talk with my mother. I

> > understood

> > > > why she had been avoiding me; she had been terrified of

all my

> > > > criticism. Suddenly I saw a new person sitting infront of

me. A

> > > > human, just like me, who wanted to love me, if I just let

her.

> > > Then,

> > > > in the middle of the conversation, the phone rang, and it

was

> my

> > > > father and he wanted to speak with me. In that moment

all my

> old

> > > > hatred let go of me. He cried on the phone and all I felt for

> > him

> > > > was love. My and my sister spend a lot of time with our

parents

> > the

> > > > remaning days and it was days filled with love and joy. In

so

> > many

> > > > years I have wished I had kind and loving parents who

cares

> > about

> > > me

> > > > and now all of a sudden I have everything I want and

more. I

> > > believe

> > > > the work has helped me to be ready to let go of all the old

> > > thoughts

> > > > about my parents that stoped me from loving them. I even

love

> > and

> > > > laugh at things they do that used to annoy me before.

Because

> it

> > is

> > > > who they are, their unic personality. And finally I just have

> to

> > > > tell you another funny thing. A couple of weeks ago I

reported

> > my

> > > > interest to be a caller on the BK radio show. I was going

to do

> > the

> > > > work on my father, how much I hated him etc. When I got

home

> > from

> > > my

> > > > trip I had recieved an e-mail that they wanted me as a

caller

> on

> > > one

> > > > of the days I was away... Well, well... I guess reality was

> > better

> > > > (seeing my father than doing the work on him:)), again!

> > > >

> > > > All my love,

> > > >

You asked " Isn´t that great? "

Yes, it is!!! It´s great, indeed, ....

Thank you, Steve, for mentioning those " twenty years " !

You said, it makes no difference how long wie have entertained

a concept!

I notice that this " thought " brings me relief !

And I see that I don´t " regret " anything that I had entertained in

the past. I just enjoy that now it´s different.

Still, there is a question coming up for me just this moment:

I wonder if I can do something to influence the process of

learning that I´m just in.

I have an example: The relationship between me and my

daughter was strained and troublesome years ago, and I

experienced great pain ( didn´t know anything about four

questions those times ).

But then, one day there was an incredible change taking place in

our relationship! What I had been longing for and striving for so

eagerly all the time, for so many years, and obviously never been

able to achieve, then, suddenly it was there!!! We´d got it ! Wasn´t

that a miracle??

I didn´t know and still don´t know what I had done, or what she

or we had done that had caused that change and why it

happened just that time ...

anyway, we found our way and we are still going it , fortunately...

it´s a great joy, .... it´s a blessing!

Well, what I´m asking myself now, is this: Can you choose the

way you are going ? Or is it all destined for you long before ....?

I remember, somebody wrote here some months ago, that " your

decisions are already made " - before you were born, before time,

it is all done already .... but still you can make your decisions,

commit yourself to " your " way, but, finally, you can´t change your

destiny ( was it like that?)

Seems that this is something that comes up for me every now

and then, I ´m searching for an answer to this ...

....would be interesting to hear what YOU " think " !

love,

Rosemarie