Anger - The Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - 5/21/08

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The Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - 5/21/08 - "Anger"How often do you get angry? Do you know what sets you off? Do you remember what you were taught about anger when you were growing up?Were you taught that it was unacceptable to feel angry? Did you learn to suppress angry feelings and stuff them down inside? Or were you taught, perhaps by example, that it was OK to explode with anger and attack others, verbally or physically? Or were you fortunate enough to learn that while it's OK to feel angry, it's not OK to hurt others, and it's not OK to blame them for how you feel?If you were taught to take responsibility for your emotions, to communicate feelings calmly and clearly, and to value both your own and other people's rights, you probably don't have much trouble with anger.Now the reason I asked you what you were taught while you were growing up is that anger very seldom has anything to do with what is happening right now, because there are so many other ways to respond.People with high self-esteem aren't interested in blaming others for things that go wrong. Instead, they accept accountability for their lives and know that if things outside them are to change, they must first change internally.For people with high self-esteem, change in themselves or in others isn't threatening to them. They embrace change because they believe they can handle it. So if you find yourself feeling a lot of anger, perhaps some work on your self-esteem is in order.Lou TiceThe Pacific Institutewww.thepacificinstitute.com"TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more effectively, and think in ways that create success."---------------------------------------------------To view past Winner's Circle messages, or make changes to your subscription, or unsubscribe, go to web site http://mailman.wolfe.net/mailman/listinfo/wcnFor any problems, please email rschau@...---------------------------------------------------The Pacific Institute copyrights 1997-2008. All rights reserved.Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice (WCN) is a registered trademark.Code 052108 _______________________________________________Wcn mailing listWcn@...http://mailman.wolfe.net/mailman/listinfo/wcn