Re: spouse won't discuss explant

[Guest guest]

J,

I'm sure he'll come around when you get home. IMHO,

Right now, he's scared to death he's going to lose

you. He doesn't realize that he's already losing a lot

of who you are, and that once you start getting well,

things will be much better.

Keep praying that God gives him understanding . . .

We'll keep praying too.

God Bless,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

J,

I feel really bad you are going through this. My husband appears

to be supportive but I can tell that he is hesitant. I think he’s hesitant

because he doesn’t know if I will get better or not.

I know it’s a lonely place to be, doing the explant. Ya really can’t

talk to anyone about it. I sometimes try to talk to my husband about the explant and I can tell as I look at him that I am losing

him, he’s not listening.

Maybe my husband’s not listening because I am repetitive and

boring already about this issue. Who knows. I just

feel compelled to talk about this right now. It’s such a major event in

my life. This really is a big deal. Finding this group is the only thing keeping

me sane sometimes. I can be as repetitive as I want and talk about it as much

as I want and nobody is going to look at me cross eyed.

Hopefully as the date of your explant

nears even closer your husband will soften up about everything.

Hugs..

Dawn

Opinions

expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by licensed health

care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care professional

before commencing any medical treatment.

" Do not let either the medical authorities or

the politicians mislead you. Find out what the facts are, and make your own

decisions about how to live a happy life and how to work for a better

world. " - Linus ing, two-time Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry;

1963, Peace)

[Guest guest]

Although I am in an opposite position, I do know the importance of having your significant other's support during this time. My fiancee actually did not want me to get implants, but supported me because it was what I wanted to do at the time. However, he does feel bad that I have had to go through all this, but we have had our issues regarding this as well. He was afraid for my health, of how I would mentally handle the explant, and also how HE would mentally handle it. I think the key is communication. Even if the feelings he has are negative, you need to talk about it, so both of you know how you feel. Then, tell him that no matter how he feels, the bottom line is that it is you that has to do it and go through the physical and emotional ramifications of explanting, and that you need his support, now, more than ever. I think that if he really knows how much you need him during this time, you will be surprised at how much he will

feel needed, and therefore give you the support you need. Although he is your husband, it isn't about him at this time, it is about YOU.

If anything else, just concentrate on your health and well being at this time. Your husband is probably just really concerned about you, and since he can't control and fix this for you, he probably feels really helpless. Hang in there and let us be your support system!

Hugs,

Cristina crazycanoe1 <crazycanoe1@...> wrote:

I know I've already mentioned this, but this is my hurt today. My husband says he has concerns about the upcoming explant, but he won't discuss them. It feels kind of hurtful. I know it's just a fear issue, and so I'm trying to trust God and do the right thing. No thoughts of backing out, but it would be nice if everything was lovey-dovey at home, you know? These implants have done more than harm my body; they have harmed my relationship with him and others. I can't be present physically or emotionally until these health bombs are out, out, out...I feel like Lady Macbeth....JOpinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care professional before commencing any medical treatment.

"Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you. Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a happy life and how to work for a better world." - Linus ing, two-time Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)