Re: Question about The Work

[Guest guest]

Dear Kai,

just judge anything you want on the worksheet.

It can be a person, an object, a feeling, whatever.

It's not about judging, it's about investigating

thoughts that appear.

Love,

--- kai04173 schrieb:

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> I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron

> , and I'm having

> trouble understanding something. When doing the work

> on people

> there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I

> understand this. But

> doing the work on any problem the book reads that I

> should use a

> worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet.

> How do I use

> a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want

> to do the work on

> a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work

> on a person)

> before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all

> very confusing.

> Could somebody clarify? thanks.

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[Guest guest]

hi,

the worksheet refered to in chapter 10 of LWI (doing the work on any thought or

situation) is the same worksheet that you would use to judge people. there are

several examples given of what you would write prior to inquiring with the 4

questions and turnaround: 'I don't like war because it frightens me'; 'I'm angry

at bureaucrats for making my llife complicated' etc, so - simply substitute the

previous examples with the issue that is troubling you and put it up against

inquiry.

best wishes,

catherine

kai04173 wrote:

I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and I'm having

trouble understanding something. When doing the work on people

there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand this. But

doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should use a

worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I use

a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the work on

a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a person)

before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very confusing.

Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

Dear Kai,

The Worksheet is filled out the same whether it is on a person or a

situation. Here is an example of a filled out worksheet on a

situation:

1. Who or what don't you like? irritates you? saddens or disappoints

you?

Ex: I am angry because G.W. Bush won the election.

2) How do you want this situation to change?

Ex: I want Bush to be seen by others as the threat he is.

3) What is it that they should or shouldn't do, be, think or feel?

Ex: People should not have voted for Bush.

4) Do you need anything from them? What do they need to give you or

do for you to be happy?

Ex: I need Kerry to win the Presidential Election.

5) What do you think of them? Make a list.

Ex: Bush is mean spirited and blood-thirsty.

6) What is it that you don't want to experience with that person,

thing or situation again?

Ex: I don't ever want to experience Bush being President again.

I hope this helps. It should help demonstrate how " hopeless " it is

to argue with reality and by doing this piece of Work, one discovers

that Reality is always kinder than our story of reality.

Please feel free to post any questions you may have.

Have fun!

Steve D.

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> I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and I'm

having

> trouble understanding something. When doing the work on people

> there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand this. But

> doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should use a

> worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I use

> a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the work

on

> a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a person)

> before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very confusing.

> Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

So you add on to the word who with " what " ? Where does it say this

in " The Work " ? Or is the point to modify " The Work " so it works? If

so then the book should mention this.

Sorry if I sound cynical. I really do believe in this process; I just

want to do this right. I think should make a revised edition

of " The Work. "

1. Who angers or saddens or disappoints you? What is it about them

that you didn't or still don't like?

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> >

> > I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and I'm

> having

> > trouble understanding something. When doing the work on people

> > there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand this.

But

> > doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should use a

> > worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I use

> > a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the work

> on

> > a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a person)

> > before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very

confusing.

> > Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

Dear Kai:

Why not post one of your work sheets here and let someone give you

some suggestions?

You said:

" If so then the book should mention this. "

Ha, you are so funny! That thought is hopeless!

You said: " I just want to do this right. "

So...you have to do The Work right? Is that true?

Can you really know that that is true?

How does it make you feel when you belive that you have to do The

Work right?

Can you see a reason to drop this thought? And I am not asking you

to drop it.

Can you see a peaceful reason to keep this thought?

Who would you be without the thought - you have to do The Work right?

You said: " I think should make a revised edition of " The Work. "

Oh, Kai, now you know what should do? Please let know

because I have an idea that she has no clue about what she should

do. :-)

Seriously, just do The Work or not. Don't worry about if you are

doing it right. Just write down what is bothering you, answer the

six questions and then apply the 4 questions and the turn around.

There is no possibility that you could do it wrong.

Blessings,

Steve D.

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> > > I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and I'm

> > having

> > > trouble understanding something. When doing the work on people

> > > there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand this.

> But

> > > doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should use

a

> > > worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I use

> > > a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the

work

> > on

> > > a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a

person)

> > > before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very

> confusing.

> > > Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

Dear Kai,

Thank you for sharing all your thoughts.

You are right. It is confusing at the beginning...How do I do the Work

the *right* way!!!...You are not the first to think this... I've

certainly wondered that myself.

I also have a story that is an awesome listener and would love

to hear how this is confusing for a beginner (you)...you can email her

at her website.

love, nne

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> So you add on to the word who with " what " ? Where does it say this

> in " The Work " ? Or is the point to modify " The Work " so it works? If

> so then the book should mention this.

>

> Sorry if I sound cynical. I really do believe in this process; I just

> want to do this right. I think should make a revised edition

> of " The Work. "

>

>

>

> 1. Who angers or saddens or disappoints you? What is it about them

> that you didn't or still don't like?

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > >

> > > I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and I'm

> > having

> > > trouble understanding something. When doing the work on people

> > > there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand this.

> But

> > > doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should use a

> > > worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I use

> > > a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the work

> > on

> > > a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a person)

> > > before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very

> confusing.

> > > Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the suggestions, Steve. I emailed info@...

yesterday. I doubt they'll answer, but I really hope they do. I would

post one of my work sheets here, but as you know I don't know how to

do the work yet. /:

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> > > >

> > > > I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and

I'm

> > > having

> > > > trouble understanding something. When doing the work on

people

> > > > there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand

this.

> > But

> > > > doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should

use

> a

> > > > worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I

use

> > > > a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the

> work

> > > on

> > > > a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a

> person)

> > > > before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very

> > confusing.

> > > > Could somebody clarify? thanks.

[Guest guest]

nne, I would email , but she's too busy to respond to

individual emails. Even her staff is too busy to answer the email I

sent them, because they haven't responded yet, and they probably

never will.

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> > > >

> > > > I purchased the ebook " Loving What Is " by Byron , and

I'm

> > > having

> > > > trouble understanding something. When doing the work on

people

> > > > there's a " judge your neighbor " work-sheet. I understand

this.

> > But

> > > > doing the work on any problem the book reads that I should

use a

> > > > worksheet, but it doesn't specify what worksheet. How do I

use

> > > > a " Love your neighbor " worksheet when I don't want to do the

work

> > > on

> > > > a person? What do I write (if I'm not doing the work on a

person)

> > > > before I inquire with the 4 questions? This is all very

> > confusing.

> > > > Could somebody clarify? thanks.