To,Sanjeev Kishore//RaguKrishnan

[Guest guest]

Thanx Sanjeev for posting lovely articles...

I am happy that u have chosen to be here, more often...and enlighten us..from

this New Year onwards...with such thought provoking articles.

We look forward to hearing such mature views on a more regular basis.

Thanx for your views.

Well,I agree to ur dad's views..and this phenomenon exists not just in

India..but also in the Western World..and many authors have written about the

inability of moms to severe the umbilical cords of their sons,in particular..and

unable to bear the thought,that a new woman,other than his own mom..now rules

his heart.

Lastly,Ragu,I come back to the query,How Does Cellphones lead to an increase in

Divorce in India?

Meaning,is it that..the wife catches her husband cheating on her..by going thru

his cellphone records..like Mrs Woods did last month..when she sent an SMS,from

Mr.Tiger's phone..to his supposed girlfriend..to see,if there was anything

between the two..only to be shocked..by what she read,as the reply!!

Bye

Shyam(84)

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> What a lovely article Sanjeev-its as if the new year has brought out a new

side in you for us to savour-in fact this is exactly what came to mind when the

recent discussion on increasing divorce in India was going on and I did not join

it for fear of being labelled a libber-Shyam mentioned one of the reasons is the

fact that todays women arent as understanding or tolerant as the older mum

generation-in fact it the growing demands of modern society that has made it

so.This is not a man-woman debate- its what society has evolved into today-girl

education and exposure to the demands of a tough work environment make it very

hard for her to adopt a Jekyll/Hyde personality-tough and assertive at work and

meek and a walkover at home-all in the name of adjustment--I also have full

sympathy for the Indian male -he is what my dad calls 'a sandwich between his

mom and his wife'-its the fault of his upbringing where he is conditioned to

believe that ghar ka kam is a girls job and if he helps out its his grace or

becoz he is a joru ka ghulam.

> Its up to us women to bring up our sons better.We would do them a disservice

to expect them to find an intelligent working woman and then be slobs at home.I

have nothing against nonworking women or women in parttime work but it should

be a matter of choice,which very often is not the case for economic/career

reasons.If a little more understanding were to save a marriage...its a price

worth paying...

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> And in this article I have only one axe to grind...get rid of the word

'almost'

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> To: mgims

> From: sanjeevkishore4u@...

> Date: Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:28:38 -0800

> Subject: The woman in my life

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> Dear friends,

> While in pune my friends and i met one of our old school friends who

had not kept in touch since last four years breaking off all contacts quite

abruptly. Well while we caught up on the missing period he confessedthat he had

gone through a messy divorce.After four years he had realised that perhaps he

had a vwry big part to play. My friends found an article that sums up the views

quite nicely. Thought i would share with you. Sanjeev

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> Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;

> Who is earning almost as much as you do;

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> One, who has dreams and aspirations just as

> you have because she is as human as you are;

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> One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your

> Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system

> that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

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> One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as

> much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

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> One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who

love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

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> One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep

oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that

kitchen

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> One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook

> food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,

> and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,

> a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as

> to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that

you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

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> One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at

her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to

put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary

competition and your inherent insecurities;

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> Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply

> Because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

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> One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like

yours, are to be met;

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> One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,

> relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some

> and trust her;

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> One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in

your entire house - your unstained support, your sensitivities and most

importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

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> But not many guys understand this......

> Please appreciate " HER "

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