Guest guest Posted August 28, 2004 Report Share Posted August 28, 2004 wrote: > Dear , > > Inner Bondings could be helpul to you, I don't know. > > And my thoughts about what you wrote: > > > My thing is feeling worthless. > > And of course attaching to this thought *makes* you feel worthless. > It's *supposed* to, it's his job. That is what the thought is for. Hi - For me what you wrote is just continued judgements - and they are harsh. What inner bonding does that is so much more fulfilling to me is that it allows you to go inside and find out what YOUR truth is and to value that truth. Once you start to value your truth - voila - you don't feel worthless anymore. But the process that Loving What Is uses unless done correctly (and for me my experience has noticed that only does facilitation in a supremely helpful way) keeps me stuck with a harsh internal critic. Inner Bonding takes the information from the internal critic and softens it so I finally break away from the familiar loop I created in childhood - of simply oscillating inside myself between a wounded (victim) child and harsh adult (perp) mentality. Loving What Is because of it's highly cognitive structure fed that disastrous loop - inner bonding breaks it - and for me that's a beautiful thing. Insight and clever mindgames simply isn't the goal-for me. Blessings - Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2004 Report Share Posted August 29, 2004 *Dear* Jan, thank you for sharing! Am 28.08.2004 um 13:36 schrieb jan: > wrote: > > Dear , > > > > Inner Bondings could be helpul to you, I don't know. > > > > And my thoughts about what you wrote: > > > > > My thing is feeling worthless. > > > > > And of course attaching to this thought *makes* you feel worthless. > > It's *supposed* to, it's his job. That is what the thought is for. > > Hi - > > For me what you wrote is just continued judgements - and they are > harsh. What inner bonding does that is so much more fulfilling to me > is that it allows you to go inside and find out what YOUR truth is and > to value that truth. > > Once you start to value your truth - voila - you don't feel worthless > anymore. Sounds wonderful! Keep it! > But the process that Loving What Is uses unless done correctly (and > for me my experience has noticed that only does facilitation in > a supremely helpful way) keeps me stuck with a harsh internal critic. > Inner Bonding takes the information from the internal critic and > softens it so I finally break away from the familiar loop I created in > childhood - of simply oscillating inside myself between a wounded > (victim) child and harsh adult (perp) mentality. Loving What Is > because of it's highly cognitive structure fed that disastrous loop - > inner bonding breaks it - and for me that's a beautiful thing. I would take that *whole* paragraph and substitute both, LWI and IB, and put " I " in it. - LWI doesn't have a cognitive structure, not in my experience, that is. And *nothing* but myself *knows* what critic is, nor can it soften nor harden it. > Insight and clever mindgames simply isn't the goal-for me. Good. I appreciate your concern. Thank you. > Blessings - Jan Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2004 Report Share Posted August 29, 2004 > *Dear* Jan, > > thank you for sharing! > > I would take that *whole* paragraph and substitute both, LWI and IB, > and put " I " in it. - LWI doesn't have a cognitive structure, not in my > experience, that is. And *nothing* but myself *knows* what critic is, > nor can it soften nor harden it. You're right and you're wrong. So what is your goal - is it to learn or to control, protect, and defend. If I were saying your words it would be a defense for me. In an enlightened sense LWI doesn't have a structure at all - but I don't step beyond my evolution. I am where I am and for me Loving What Is is a very cognitive methodology compared to Inner Bonding/Pathway/Willingness Works/etc. Not a bad thing - I just need to stop feeding the judgement loop. Blessings - Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Dear Jan, Am 30.08.2004 um 00:14 schrieb jan: > > > *Dear* Jan, > > > > thank you for sharing! > > > > > I would take that *whole* paragraph and substitute both, LWI and IB, > > and put " I " in it. - LWI doesn't have a cognitive structure, not in > my > > experience, that is. And *nothing* but myself *knows* what critic > is, > > nor can it soften nor harden it. > > You're right and you're wrong. Thank you. I can find that. > So what is your goal - is it to learn or to control, protect, and > defend. I don't know. To learn and to help, perhaps. > If I were saying your words it would be a defense for me. I hear that, and I said them... because I did. And I want to share that the turnaround on me felt good for me. > In an enlightened sense LWI doesn't have a structure at all - I don't know about " enligthened " senses, and yes it has a structure: Write it down, ask the four questions, *then* turn it around. > but I don't step beyond my evolution. Great! I do, sometimes. > I am where I am and for me Loving What Is is a very cognitive > methodology compared to Inner > Bonding/Pathway/Willingness Works/etc. Not a bad thing - I just need > to stop feeding the judgement loop. Good. I hear that you know what you need. I wish you best. > Blessings - Jan Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 wrote: > > I need > > to stop feeding the judgement loop. >*Dear* Jan, > Good. I hear that you know what you need. I wish you best. > > Love, > Hey Thanks- Best feedback I ever got on this board. Blessings - Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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