Obesity

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I've looked, however briefly, at these systems for extreme weight loss.    I

know one woman, in NC, who had the gastric bypass done three years ago... sure,

she lost the weight... but now, she's coming up with some really hardcore

problems - unable to eat meats due to the pain that it causes her digestive

system...unable to drink milk (sudden onset " lactose intolerance " ) ...blood

sugar problems...dry, scaley skin...her hair falling out... the list goes on an

on.

I'm a big girl, myself.   when I was a kid, there was nothing that could slow my

metabolism.  I burned my food far more quickly then I ate it.   My Dad, gods

rest his soul, had visitation on the weekends...and Mcs became a weekend

staple.  That gave me the taste for the fat and mass quantities of cheap, fast

food.  I dont blame him, by any means...  Since he an my mom split, he had been

single, mainly, and what kid would rather have Dad cook, back in the 80s, then

go to Mickey D's?!   Not me, that's for sure.  <Grins>  My mom always, always

made some phenomenal, all natural foods.  She did the absolute best - always

reading labels, using everything fresh that she could....so that combated the

weekend binges of burgers, fries and soda...   But...oh, that Mcs is

pervasive!  I got to the point that, if Dad was away for a Drill Weekend...and I

didn't get that fast food... Oy, what a wench!  I craved it...I " needed " it...

it was truly addictive!   So..as a teen, I packed on an extra 15lbs... which,

at the time, was okay! I'd always been exceptionally tiny.  People used to try

to forcefeed me, thinking that I was so skinny, surely no one fed me at home

<laughs>.     Then... I met my husband.  He was a boxer, a police officer...

heavy into healthy living, never smoked a day in his life... the whole bit.   I

would cook...and cook... and cook.....and nibble, throughout the entire cooking

process...  Not always a bad thing, of course...    But I got lazy, too. 

Sitting with our daughter, summer, watching TV (before I decided to give up on

TV entirely)...  It was the SAD curse...creating a sedentary lifestyle, not only

for myself... but for my daughter AND my husband!    Hubby stopped boxing,

saying he had less time for it... He got into TV (especially the older B & W

shows) and ended up a lump on the couch...me right along side him.  My mom's

side has some

really big women...Grandma " B " came from Scotland and she was a plump, cheerful

woman, always putting out plates of 'real " shortbread and pots of tea with real,

delicious cream...  Not a bad thing, but...she was quite plump.   My mom got

chubby in her 30s, when she was working 80 hours a week at a residential home

for the mentally handicapped. She got the cancer at age 38 and just kinda gave

up, saying, " well.. i'm gonna die anyway...may as well enjoy myself in the

meantime " ... Then, here I am... 34 on Nov 22nd... over 200lbs, because I sit in

front of the computer (no longer the tv, but nearly as bad)...  I knit sweaters

and everything until my hands go numb, and my brain focuses on stitch counts and

cable techniques, rather then ways to get my two daughters outside and keep them

active.  

My Aunt June always expounded on the benefits of a healthy, active lifestyle..

no one on my Dad's side was terribly large, that was blood related to me...in

fact, most are quite thin, well into their 60's and 70's, not to mention

phenomenally active, productive people.

It was, and is, my sheer laziness that keeps me heavy.  It's not easy to say

that.  Since coming to my epiphany, and finally listening to Aunt Junie...I've

lost about 20lbs, just from diet change.   TF is honestly the way to go.  Adding

Kefir was the first step...learning how to make the foods that I liked, without

using vegetable oils, or even canola oil, was the next.  Now?  I have to get

active.  It's the hardest part.... It's NOT easy to get off the couch, or out of

this computer chair... to choose a knitting project that's portable, instead of

these awesome, heavy sweaters that take more concentration then I can muster

while walking about...   I've had 13 years of sedentary living...I know I wont

break this cycle overnight...   

But.. looking at the Lapband, or the GBP surgeries...  Could I really do that?  

Honestly, it scares me too much.   The effects, long term, seem so much more to

deal with then taking these first few steps that I know I need to.    I feel for

your wife...sometimes people really canNOT lose the weight... i'm sure she's

tried everything else and just got to a breaking point.  Kudos to you for being

supportive, whatever her decision.    I highly commend you, truly told.     For

the machine?  when my girls were little, I used to use a Proctor Silex brand

food processor...chopped everything up, pulsing the buttons, super fast and let

me add the " shredded " meats to mac and cheese, or other foods that I knew they

would eat...and they hardly knew the difference.   The biggest thing for her,

from what I can see, is taking her food a TBSP at a time, never letting herself

feel " full " (after the surgery) and copious amounts of real milk. 

I wish you, and your Lady, the absolute best... I hope this works out.... 

 

Candace Musmeci

CaeletNox@...

Newburgh, NY

~Dipping into the Living Well...One product at a time~