How do fat chicks land husbands?

[Guest guest]

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My ex husband fell in love with me when I was overweight. Then, I gained even

more weight when I was pregnant, he still loved me no matter what. He left our

marriage 18 months ago. Not a weight related issue. I am almost 2 months post

op. He told me yesterday that I was pretty before but am prettier now. I have

lost 30 pounds. There are people out there who look beyond the physical and

look to other things like personality traits. I always look at the personality

first and then of course I need to be attracted to them physically as well. I

am attracted to all types of men, even overweight. Love is a complicated thing.

I personally believe that God puts people together and there is a special

someone for everyone. So, don't give up hope.

[Guest guest]

> Ok...confession time.

>

> I consider myself to be open minded, liberal and very few bias.

However I'm discovering a most unpleasant envy/jealous streak in

myself...

>

> HOW IN THE HELL DO FAT WOMEN MANAGE TO LAND HUSBANDS!!!

>

> Never noticed it before. Never thought about it before. However

lately it seems whenever I see a big woman with her husband or

boyfriend, I just want to stare or gawk. I'm jealous! I'm envious!

God forgive me...I want to know what's wrong with me or why am I so

ugly that the only way a man would look at me is if I glued $100

bills all over my body.

>

> Used to think men didn't like fat women, but I'm noticing more men

with big women lately and I live in Orange County, CA where it's a

sin to be bigger than a size 14. See them all the time at Target and

Wal-Mart. Our new receptionist easily outweighs me by 50 pounds and

her husband is drop dead gorgeous. What is it???

>

> I know some of you had husbands and boyfriends before the

DS....how did you hook up? I'm beginning to think someone passed out

a pamphlet called " Sexy Guys for Fat Chicks " and forgot to send me

one :-(

>

> I'll get off my soapbox now, but at least I've confessed...

>

> I'M JEALOUS OF FAT CHICKS WITH MEN!!!

>

> <---- sneaking off to her corner to be quiet for another

couple of months

>

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Hey, ... great to see you out and about on-line!

Since you came out of lurkdom, I will too.

I " snagged " my husband when I was 14 ( & weighed ~145 @ 5ft2in) and

he was 16 (way-back in 1963). He was a blind date ... I knew he was

IT from that moment on! He didn't know that I would soon out-weigh

him!

I know that you will be a great catch for some good-looking guy.

(Just look at the compliment that stranger gave you!) You are good

company and have a wickedly, wonderful sense of humor. Hey, if you

saw Halle's interview on Oprah recently, you know she said that she

would not ever marry again ... that's because she heard that you

will be having the " full-meal-deal " PS ... guys will be looking your

way, not hers! Hang in there ... you and the right guy will find

each other!

Melinda in NM

[Guest guest]

I can't answer this. I wish I could. I went 31 years of my life with few

relationships or dates and I don't recall any of them being healthy and the give

and take a good relationship should be. I think I was too needy and wanted it

to much. Who knows? I can say that when I did finally find love was when I

had decided it was not something I " needed " I determined that if my life were to

be single it would be the best I could make it. I started to travel by myself

and get involved in a group that meant a lot to me. I continued to say

prayers for someone to love and who loved me but my heart was eased about it.

When I

met my current husband I was initially a bit underwhelmed. It is funny how

the blinders can come off and you can see the things that are really important.

Caring, honesty, commitment. I met him at a time in my life where I could

appreciate the wonder of it all and was beyond the shallowness of my youth. I

now consider my prayers answered in the best way for ME. I will pray for the

same for you.. Big caring hugs..

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/4/2004 9:24:12 AM Central Standard Time,

roseofsharon_ps121@... writes:

> HOW IN THE HELL DO FAT WOMEN MANAGE TO LAND HUSBANDS!!!

I smiled at him and he was mine......

Sharon in Onyx

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Sharon,

I think that answers a lot. Look at the Confidence in that line.....LOL.

in Bama

Web site- http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/

[Guest guest]

> HOW IN THE HELL DO FAT WOMEN MANAGE TO LAND HUSBANDS!!!

I smiled at him and he was mine......

Sharon in Onyx

[Guest guest]

> > HOW IN THE HELL DO FAT WOMEN MANAGE TO LAND HUSBANDS!!!

>

>

> I smiled at him and he was mine......

> Sharon in Onyx

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well, blush, its true...

When his mom said to him, you know shes quite large.....he just said

he didnt realize that. All he could see was my smile....

that was 17 years ago...

Sharon in Onyx

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

Do you give lessons? Offer seminars? Really, even for those of us not in the

husband hunting arena, a good smile could really get us somewhere!

inWA

[Guest guest]

> Sharon,

>

> Do you give lessons? Offer seminars? Really, even for those of us

not in the

> husband hunting arena, a good smile could really get us somewhere!

>

> inWA

LOL, Oh, ,

Its easy. All you have to do is smile with your heart. When I saw

my heart increased in size so much that it came out on my

face....

Sharon in Onyx

who has also heard that smiling makes you look younger.

[Guest guest]

> Sharon in Onyx

> who has also heard that smiling makes you look younger.

Oh, and .....you have a beautiful smile, and Tom too....so you

have it all...

hugs,

sharon in onyx

who has pics to prove it!