Re: This is a group not a family

[Guest guest]

I was wondering what prompted this. Did I miss some email about family? Just

curious.

I also have judgements around the use of " isms " such as " angel " , " precious "

etc., and I did the work on it. I find I try to copy Katy in other ways e.g. I

love wearing shawls now. People will do what they want. Nothing to do with me.

I try to discard what does not resonate, work on what stresses and maybe even

delete without reading.

One thing I noticed around judgements is that I sometimes enjoy having them and

feel I don't want to do any work on " getting rid " of them because they don't

seem to cause me stress. I have someone I think is a bitch and I want to keep

the thought. I laugh about it and manage to maintain a working relationship

with the person. Any thoughts on this one anyone?

Doreen

openeyes4444 wrote:

I don't look upon this group of people as a " family " --my family is

not interested in the Work or self-actualization. My family is

interested in pot luck suppers, the family business and TV. They are

willing to lend me money, love me in their own way and celebrate my

birthday with me. They will also take care of my children if I die

before they're grown. Are there any takers for these things in

this " family " group? I think not!

Lets not present a facade of false attachments here. This is just a

group of somewhat like-minded people seeking some of the same answers

to some of the same questions--using the same tool or a modification

of that tool to do that.

As long as I'm clearing up muddy communication waters, I'd also like

to request that the salutation, " Loving what is precious, and that

would be you " not be used when sending me messages. I don't need

someone else to tell me whether I'm precious or not--it sounds

condenscending and patronizing to me.

openeyes

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[Guest guest]

Good advice! Eddie

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>Reply-To: Loving-what-is

>To: Loving-what-is

>Subject: Re: This is a group not a family

>Date: Tue, 17 Feb 2004 16:41:18 -0500 (EST)

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>I was wondering what prompted this. Did I miss some email about family?

>Just curious.

>

>I also have judgements around the use of " isms " such as " angel " ,

> " precious " etc., and I did the work on it. I find I try to copy Katy in

>other ways e.g. I love wearing shawls now. People will do what they want.

>Nothing to do with me. I try to discard what does not resonate, work on

>what stresses and maybe even delete without reading.

>

>One thing I noticed around judgements is that I sometimes enjoy having them

>and feel I don't want to do any work on " getting rid " of them because they

>don't seem to cause me stress. I have someone I think is a bitch and I

>want to keep the thought. I laugh about it and manage to maintain a

>working relationship with the person. Any thoughts on this one anyone?

>

>Doreen

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>openeyes4444 wrote:

>I don't look upon this group of people as a " family " --my family is

>not interested in the Work or self-actualization. My family is

>interested in pot luck suppers, the family business and TV. They are

>willing to lend me money, love me in their own way and celebrate my

>birthday with me. They will also take care of my children if I die

>before they're grown. Are there any takers for these things in

>this " family " group? I think not!

>

>Lets not present a facade of false attachments here. This is just a

>group of somewhat like-minded people seeking some of the same answers

>to some of the same questions--using the same tool or a modification

>of that tool to do that.

>

>As long as I'm clearing up muddy communication waters, I'd also like

>to request that the salutation, " Loving what is precious, and that

>would be you " not be used when sending me messages. I don't need

>someone else to tell me whether I'm precious or not--it sounds

>condenscending and patronizing to me.

>

>openeyes

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[Guest guest]

> I don't look upon this group of people as a " family " --my family is

> not interested in the Work or self-actualization. My family is

> interested in pot luck suppers, the family business and TV. They

are

> willing to lend me money, love me in their own way and celebrate my

> birthday with me. They will also take care of my children if I die

> before they're grown. Are there any takers for these things in

> this " family " group? I think not!

>

> Lets not present a facade of false attachments here. This is just a

> group of somewhat like-minded people seeking some of the same

answers

> to some of the same questions--using the same tool or a

modification

> of that tool to do that.

>

> As long as I'm clearing up muddy communication waters, I'd also

like

> to request that the salutation, " Loving what is precious, and that

> would be you " not be used when sending me messages. I don't need

> someone else to tell me whether I'm precious or not--it sounds

> condenscending and patronizing to me.

>

> openeyes

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[Guest guest]

Hi C-K,

Thanks so much. I guess I was having thoughts about not having judgements. You

explained this so well and I appreciate it. Makes a lot of sense to me.

Doreen

Re: This is a group not a family

> I don't look upon this group of people as a " family " --my family is

> not interested in the Work or self-actualization. My family is

> interested in pot luck suppers, the family business and TV. They

are

> willing to lend me money, love me in their own way and celebrate my

> birthday with me. They will also take care of my children if I die

> before they're grown. Are there any takers for these things in

> this " family " group? I think not!

>

> Lets not present a facade of false attachments here. This is just a

> group of somewhat like-minded people seeking some of the same

answers

> to some of the same questions--using the same tool or a

modification

> of that tool to do that.

>

> As long as I'm clearing up muddy communication waters, I'd also

like

> to request that the salutation, " Loving what is precious, and that

> would be you " not be used when sending me messages. I don't need

> someone else to tell me whether I'm precious or not--it sounds

> condenscending and patronizing to me.

>

> openeyes

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