Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 Okay here was my first attempt at the Judge you neighbor worksheet. 1. I am angry, confused, and disappointed with P. because he abandoned me when I was scared and sick. We had been friends for four years and agreed to be there as family for eachother because we both didn't have supporting family to turn to...prior to my getting so sick we had been having fun hanging together frequently and he had been talking about celebrating my 40th birthday with me on thanksgiving day. Then I got a cold, which led to double ear infections, which led me to the emergency room peeing blood. I was scared and called him from there and left a message. He called later and yelled at me for turning to him that I should be calling my family not him. I said well if that's how you feel then goodbye. He hasn't contacted me since. I have tried to call, and he has left his message machine off and ignored my calls. I have left notes at his house saying I am confused and would he please tell me why he won't talk to me all of a sudden. No explanation. My birthday came and went without any acknowledgement. It's been 3 months and I am perplexed and mad. 2. I want P. to explain, to apologize for being so thoughtless and cruel, and value the long friendship we have had. 3. P. shouldn't ignore and neglect our friendship. He should comfort a friend who is sick enough to be in an emergency room, and to honor plans to be with me for my birthday when he said he would. He shouldn't abandon a friend who loves him so much, who has always been there for him. 4. I need to know he still cares about me. For me to be happy he would call, apologize, tell me he misses me and wants to make amends. 5. P. is selfish and self-absorbed. He gets angry too easily. 6. I don't ever want to wish for his friendship ever again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 " gypsy6067 " wrote: > Okay here was my first attempt at the Judge you neighbor worksheet. > > 1. I am angry, confused, and disappointed with P. because he > abandoned me when I was scared and sick. > > 2. I want P. to explain, to apologize for being so thoughtless and > cruel, and value the long friendship we have had. > > 3. P. shouldn't ignore and neglect our friendship. > > 4. I need to know he still cares about me. For me to be happy he > would call, apologize, tell me he misses me and wants to make amends. > > 5. P. is selfish and self-absorbed. He gets angry too easily. > > 6. I don't ever want to wish for his friendship ever again. Now on each of these statements apply the four questions. This is just the story part of the worksheet - Next comes the four questions to undo the story or allow you to see this story in a different light.... 1. Is it true? 2. Can you really know that it is true? Who's business are you in? 3. How do you feel when you think the thought.....P shouldn't.... 4. Who would you be without the story of....P shouldn't.... 5. Turnaround...I shouldn't neglect P. and give him the space he is apparently asking for. I shouldn't neglect me and give me the affection and care I am asking for. Just a start.... Blessings - Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2004 Report Share Posted February 16, 2004 Dear Gypsy, you did a very good work on judging P. Did you ask the questions and do the turnaround? Do you need help with something? Love, > > Okay here was my first attempt at the Judge you neighbor worksheet. > > 1. I am angry, confused, and disappointed with P. because he > abandoned me when I was scared and sick. We had been friends for four > years and agreed to be there as family for eachother because we both > didn't have supporting family to turn to...prior to my getting so > sick we had been having fun hanging together frequently and he had > been talking about celebrating my 40th birthday with me on > thanksgiving day. Then I got a cold, which led to double ear > infections, which led me to the emergency room peeing blood. I was > scared and called him from there and left a message. He called later > and yelled at me for turning to him that I should be calling my > family not him. I said well if that's how you feel then goodbye. He > hasn't contacted me since. I have tried to call, and he has left his > message machine off and ignored my calls. I have left notes at his > house saying I am confused and would he please tell me why he won't > talk to me all of a sudden. No explanation. My birthday came and went > without any acknowledgement. It's been 3 months and I am perplexed > and mad. > > 2. I want P. to explain, to apologize for being so thoughtless and > cruel, and value the long friendship we have had. > > 3. P. shouldn't ignore and neglect our friendship. He should comfort > a friend who is sick enough to be in an emergency room, and to honor > plans to be with me for my birthday when he said he would. He > shouldn't abandon a friend who loves him so much, who has always been > there for him. > > 4. I need to know he still cares about me. For me to be happy he > would call, apologize, tell me he misses me and wants to make amends. > > 5. P. is selfish and self-absorbed. He gets angry too easily. > > 6. I don't ever want to wish for his friendship ever again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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