Re: How do I turn around self-judgement?

[Guest guest]

Dear MB:

1. I should be earning more money.

Then possible turnaround would be:

" I should not be earning more money. "

2. " I should be less afraid. "

Turn around: " I should not be less afraid. "

Or " I can not be less afraid than what I am right now. "

Both of your statements are lies and not true. They are great

examples of how we argue with What Is or Reality. They are sort of

like the fellow I heard today doing The Work on " I wnat to write a

book. " Well, evidently not until he writes something. There must be

other things he wants to do more.

In this moment are you " earning more money " ? If not then to believe

you should be is an obvious lie. This does not mean that you will

not earn more money and it certainly is not a judgement about whether

or not you should earn more money. It is just a simple look at the

truth and right now you are not but you believe you should be. That

is like trying to teach the proverbial Cat to bark! It is impossible.

In this moment are you afraid? If not then your thought is not true

and if you are afraid then saying that you should not be is again

arguing with reality or What Is! It is sort of like saying it should

not be raining while it is raining. Thoughts of this type can only

create stress because our true nature is truth and they are obvious

lies!

I hope this is helpful.

Blessings, Steve D.

> I'm new to this, and this may be in all of the messages somewhere,

> but how do I do a turnaround on myself? Like, I should be earning

> more money. Or I should be less afraid? Any ideas? Thanks in

advance.

> MB

[Guest guest]

> I'm new to this, and this may be in all of the messages somewhere,

> but how do I do a turnaround on myself? Like, I should be earning

> more money. Or I should be less afraid? Any ideas? Thanks in advance.

Hi, MB. I think turnarounds are great fun. I look for ways to turn

thoughts around to myself, to the other, to the opposite (of the

thought), to my thinking, to being willing, and to looking forward to.

To take your example about earning money...

- to the other: Other people should be earning more money.

- to the opposite: I should not be earning more money, or I should be

earning less money.

- to my thinking: My thinking should be earning more money. I should

be earning more thinking.

- to being willing: I am willing to earn more money. I am willing to

believe that I should be earning more money than I do.

- to looking forward: I look forward to earning more money. I look

forward to believing that I should be earning more money than I do.

I also like to try replacing words like " should " , " must " , or " have to "

with words like " could " , " might " , or " want to " .

- I could be earning more money. I might be earning more money.

Finally, an idea that occurs just now is to replace one symbol with

another. For example, replacing the symbol " money " ,

- I could be earning more popcorn.

- I could be earning more earmuffs.

- I could be earning more earwigs.

- I could be earning more dirt.

- I could be earning more honey.

Also, while looking for ways the turnarounds are true for me, I try to

remember that I don't have to believe the turnaround any more than the

original thought.

I don't know if anyone else will agree with me, but *I* think the most

important thing is to have fun.

Tom

[Guest guest]

Oh to be worried well ! Got a little of that funky myself . It ' s

okay , be happy . Don ' t worry be up here , happy . Happy happens

!

> Dear MB:

>

> 1. I should be earning more money.

>

> Then possible turnaround would be:

> " I should not be earning more money. "

>

> 2. " I should be less afraid. "

>

> Turn around: " I should not be less afraid. "

> Or " I can not be less afraid than what I am right now. "

>

> Both of your statements are lies and not true. They are great

> examples of how we argue with What Is or Reality. They are sort of

> like the fellow I heard today doing The Work on " I wnat to write a

> book. " Well, evidently not until he writes something. There must be

> other things he wants to do more.

>

> In this moment are you " earning more money " ? If not then to believe

> you should be is an obvious lie. This does not mean that you will

> not earn more money and it certainly is not a judgement about whether

> or not you should earn more money. It is just a simple look at the

> truth and right now you are not but you believe you should be. That

> is like trying to teach the proverbial Cat to bark! It is impossible.

>

> In this moment are you afraid? If not then your thought is not true

> and if you are afraid then saying that you should not be is again

> arguing with reality or What Is! It is sort of like saying it should

> not be raining while it is raining. Thoughts of this type can only

> create stress because our true nature is truth and they are obvious

> lies!

>

> I hope this is helpful.

>

> Blessings, Steve D.

>

>

>

>> I'm new to this, and this may be in all of the messages somewhere,

>> but how do I do a turnaround on myself? Like, I should be earning

>> more money. Or I should be less afraid? Any ideas? Thanks in

> advance.

>> MB

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> > I'm new to this, and this may be in all of the messages

somewhere,

> > but how do I do a turnaround on myself? Like, I should be earning

> > more money. Or I should be less afraid? Any ideas? Thanks in

advance.

>

> Hi, MB. I think turnarounds are great fun. I look for ways to turn

> thoughts around to myself, to the other, to the opposite (of the

> thought), to my thinking, to being willing, and to looking forward

to.

> To take your example about earning money...

>

> - to the other: Other people should be earning more money.

> - to the opposite: I should not be earning more money, or I should

be

> earning less money.

> - to my thinking: My thinking should be earning more money. I

should

> be earning more thinking.

> - to being willing: I am willing to earn more money. I am willing

to

> believe that I should be earning more money than I do.

> - to looking forward: I look forward to earning more money. I look

> forward to believing that I should be earning more money than I

do.

>

> I also like to try replacing words like " should " , " must " , or " have

to "

> with words like " could " , " might " , or " want to " .

>

> - I could be earning more money. I might be earning more money.

>

> Finally, an idea that occurs just now is to replace one symbol with

> another. For example, replacing the symbol " money " ,

>

> - I could be earning more popcorn.

> - I could be earning more earmuffs.

> - I could be earning more earwigs.

> - I could be earning more dirt.

> - I could be earning more honey.

>

> Also, while looking for ways the turnarounds are true for me, I try

to

> remember that I don't have to believe the turnaround any more than

the

> original thought.

>

> I don't know if anyone else will agree with me, but *I* think the

most

> important thing is to have fun.

>

> Tom

Thanks, Tom. Sorry it took me so long to respond. I appreciate your

help, and I too am always open for more humor. MB