Re: Post-IEP Meeting Depression

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You're on the right track with him, and yes it will just take soem time. It

sounds like he's trying pretty hard to speak - I wouldn't be discouraged by

peopel who think he never will speak. They don't know what the future holds for

him. I think he's well on his way to speech

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><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>Thanks to everyone who so kindly

responded & nbsp;to

>Post-IEP Meeting Depression. & nbsp; I knew you guys wouldn't let me down because

>we're & nbsp;all in this thing together. & nbsp; </FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>Lostinia, we live on the central coast in San

>Obispo County. & nbsp; If you're on the 101 Freeway, you'll know you're here

>by & nbsp;the livestock. & nbsp; But the cows have been lying down & nbsp;lately, and

>I think that's a big part of 's recent problems (rain). & nbsp;

>'s & nbsp;in-home & nbsp;behavior specialist said yesterday that all her

little

>headbangers have been reactivated since the rain because & nbsp;they aren't

>getting & nbsp;outside for the & nbsp;running, swinging, etc. & nbsp; </FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>We moved here a couple years ago from Ventura

>County where was in the Regional Center's Infant Program. & nbsp; & nbsp;Our

>service coordinator there was great. & nbsp; She & nbsp;taught me how to file

>complaints and go to arbitration when I was turned down for something, and she

>really wanted to get everything he needed no matter what it cost the

>regional center. & nbsp; Seems like since I've been up here, nobody gives a dang

>as long as they don't have to spend any money. & nbsp; </FONT><FONT face=Bangle

>size=2>It all comes down to the bottom line. & nbsp; </FONT></DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2></FONT> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>It's sad to think & nbsp;how these people went into

>education and social work because they loved the kids but somewhere along the

>line, politics reared its ugly head and they were taught to do a job they

>probably never imagined in their worst nightmares. & nbsp; So now they have their

>beautiful new homes and $30,000 cars to make them feel better about what

they're

>doing. & nbsp; </FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>At Tuesday's & nbsp;meeting, we heard stinging

words

>like " severe " and " life-long disability, " but they still don't see fit to teach

>my son to learn. & nbsp; I know it can be done because our in-home people are

>doing it. & nbsp; & nbsp;</FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>The school's speech and language assessment

>didn't & nbsp;mention apraxia, which & nbsp;could very well be & nbsp;why my son

can't

>speak. & nbsp; The adapted PE assessment said can dribble and shoot a

>basketball as well as an NT kid of the same age (whose kids was that guy

>watching?) and that his gross motor was fine but it's the autism that prevents

>him from playing a game of kickball with his peers, so he couldn't help

>that. & nbsp; The assessor for the assistive technology said likes the

>computer strictly for clicking the mouse, but he's never seen him at home where

>he clicks & nbsp;on " My Computer " to click on " CD ROM " & nbsp;and then " play " to

get

>to his Sesame Street game.</FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>Why do they think the PECS & nbsp;system is the

>solution to all 's problems? & nbsp; Because it costs them NOTHING (I spend

>hours making his cards on my computer). & nbsp; Perhaps they & nbsp;do

>believe & nbsp; will never speak, but we've heard him blurt out words on

>occasion, so we're not going to give up on him just yet. & nbsp; Every time I say

> " up, " says, " uh-puh. " & nbsp; & nbsp;He has learned four ASL signs, and when

>he signs " more, " he will frequently verbalize, " moe. " & nbsp; Anyone who is

paying

>attention can see that he is & nbsp;trying. & nbsp; As his communication increases,

>his behaviors will certainly decrease. & nbsp; It's & nbsp;just going to take some

>time. & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp;</FONT></DIV>

><DIV> & nbsp;</DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>Thanks,</FONT></DIV>

><DIV><FONT size=2><FONT face=Bangle>~April R. (not quite as discouraged as

>yesterday) & nbsp;</FONT></FONT></DIV>

><DIV><FONT face=Bangle size=2>SLO(W) County</FONT></DIV>

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