Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Hang in there, Therese. I have had a low in my career, and have felt very similar to you. I try to be optimistic, but it was hard when everything seemed to be headed down the drain. Maybe you could get a simple job related to something that you like to do, then you can ease back into the field of higher education. Or try offering your services to the community colleges. I have a friend who was denied tenure and was lost for awhile. He taught at community college and that led to a job he loves in journalism. Try to remember that when a door is shut, a window is opened. Even if that window faces a brick alley, there is a chance to look out and see the sun. Sorry, that was sappy. And like I said to Ella, you gotta get that anger out. I think it is a good idea to stop reading about BPD's that " go good " . There is a snowball's chance in hell for that to happen to most of our nadas! Life will gat better for you. (((((((((hugs))))))))))) Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Hi Therese, I am sorry that you're going thru a low point in your career. I had the same thing happen to me over a year ago with a horrible nada boss. Losing my career felt so horrible. I was sure that I would never get another job in that field. And then, when I was offered one, just the thought of going back to that whole industry and job made me feel so sick. Now, I don't have the career thing figured out, am much happier and can't even believe that I actually worked in my previous job, for that boss in that company in that field (UGH). That was really nada's career reality for me, not my choice. I know that things will get better for you. You deserve something better and I know that it will happen for you. (I'm sending you good vibes). Hugs, Lula > Hang in there, Therese. > > I have had a low in my career, and have felt very similar to you. I > try to be optimistic, but it was hard when everything seemed to be > headed down the drain. > > Maybe you could get a simple job related to something that you like to > do, then you can ease back into the field of higher education. Or try > offering your services to the community colleges. I have a friend who > was denied tenure and was lost for awhile. He taught at community > college and that led to a job he loves in journalism. > > Try to remember that when a door is shut, a window is opened. Even if > that window faces a brick alley, there is a chance to look out and see > the sun. Sorry, that was sappy. > > And like I said to Ella, you gotta get that anger out. I think it is a > good idea to stop reading about BPD's that " go good " . There is a > snowball's chance in hell for that to happen to most of our nadas! > > Life will gat better for you. > (((((((((hugs))))))))))) > > Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 You are a sweetie, Lula. I've often thought that I may not really want my former career, but I want to teach and write, I know that. Both my parents are snobs about careers, and I wonder if the academic life I had isn't also one of their projections onto me about what the right career should be for me (meaning them, since I don't have any reality in their minds except as an extension of them). It's a thought. I really do hate the snobbery, pettiness, and backbiting politics that can occur in that sector. Oh, well, I'm up late and getting a lot of comfort from reading these posts. Thanks for your kind words again, Lula! Therese > > Hang in there, Therese. > > > > I have had a low in my career, and have felt very similar to you. I > > try to be optimistic, but it was hard when everything seemed to be > > headed down the drain. > > > > Maybe you could get a simple job related to something that you like to > > do, then you can ease back into the field of higher education. Or try > > offering your services to the community colleges. I have a friend who > > was denied tenure and was lost for awhile. He taught at community > > college and that led to a job he loves in journalism. > > > > Try to remember that when a door is shut, a window is opened. Even if > > that window faces a brick alley, there is a chance to look out and see > > the sun. Sorry, that was sappy. > > > > And like I said to Ella, you gotta get that anger out. I think it is a > > good idea to stop reading about BPD's that " go good " . There is a > > snowball's chance in hell for that to happen to most of our nadas! > > > > Life will gat better for you. > > (((((((((hugs))))))))))) > > > > Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 Thanks, Therese! I just had another thought....Even if your academic career was one of your FOO's projections...I would feel grateful and honored that my FOO had such lofty career aspirations for me. My nada and fada always told me that I was no good, therefore, a failure in the outer world. Hugs, Lula --- eloiseat6 wrote: > You are a sweetie, Lula. > > I've often thought that I may not really want my > former career, but > I want to teach and write, I know that. Both my > parents are snobs > about careers, and I wonder if the academic life I > had isn't also > one of their projections onto me about what the > right career should > be for me (meaning them, since I don't have any > reality in their > minds except as an extension of them). It's a > thought. I really do > hate the snobbery, pettiness, and backbiting > politics that can occur > in that sector. > > Oh, well, I'm up late and getting a lot of comfort > from reading > these posts. > > Thanks for your kind words again, Lula! > > Therese > > > > > > Hang in there, Therese. > > > > > > I have had a low in my career, and have felt > very similar to > you. I > > > try to be optimistic, but it was hard when > everything seemed to > be > > > headed down the drain. > > > > > > Maybe you could get a simple job related to > something that you > like to > > > do, then you can ease back into the field of > higher education. > Or try > > > offering your services to the community > colleges. I have a > friend who > > > was denied tenure and was lost for awhile. He > taught at > community > > > college and that led to a job he loves in > journalism. > > > > > > Try to remember that when a door is shut, a > window is opened. > Even if > > > that window faces a brick alley, there is a > chance to look out > and see > > > the sun. Sorry, that was sappy. > > > > > > And like I said to Ella, you gotta get that > anger out. I think > it is a > > > good idea to stop reading about BPD's that " go > good " . There is a > > > snowball's chance in hell for that to happen to > most of our > nadas! > > > > > > Life will gat better for you. > > > (((((((((hugs))))))))))) > > > > > > Di. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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