[modoasis] opened the letter from previous therapist

[Guest guest]

Ok, I opened the letter only b/c I faxed a copy of the envelope to the

office asking if it were fake. The therapist called back and left a

message it was not fake (but I opened it up careful enough I still

will return it to sender!)

Here is the gist of the letter:

" Per your mother's written request, I am sending this letter to you.

As stated above, the diagnosis given your mother...by me is stated as

Major Depressive Disorder, Recurrent. Although you were included in

several family therapy sessions, at no time were you told that your

mother was given a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder which

would be a breach of patient confidentiality. I recall one session in

which you expressed your concerns that your mother was a 'borderline

personality' and I did hear your concerns.

Regardless of the patient's diagnosis, however, it is typically not

beneficial for families to experience emotional cut-offs in which a

family member (or members) no longer has any type of contact with

another member(s) of the family.

It seems that family therapy might be beneficial for you and your

family members. However, each family member would need to feel

comfortable with the therapist or counselor you all chose. I wish you

well on your continued journey "

Ok, so is it me, or does this person possibly only have " book " sense

of what a borderline is? That second paragraph is rather irksome.

Not going to let it bother me, but what kind of a person who

understands this borderline stuff says " it typically is not

beneficial.... " blah blah blah

Well, of course, there are a few things you could possibly read into

this letter. The " typically is not beneficial " does not mean " It's

never beneficial " Also, the " Regardless of a patient's diagnosis "

is another one. And one more is " at no time were you told that your

mother was given a diagnosis of " BPD. Correct! She did not tell

me. I was the one who read about it and called her up to ask if she

heard about it and then she said, " Yes, I was considering diagnosing

your mother as Axis II disorder "

Now she did not include an axis II disorder in this letter. If she

did, nada would sue her. So, she is trying to save her a** while at

the same time being somewhat open ended about it to me.

Of course, I feel like writing her and asking if she ever had to live

in the hell of living with a borderline personality and that her

" typically is not beneficial " in this situation does not count b/c

what does count is saving the life of me and my daughter.

I am returning it to sender tomorrow. . I guess if nada ever asks if I

got it I have to decide what to say. Perhaps I should say, " You are

rather nosy, aren't you? " and then if she presses I will just keep

saying " What? "

Any thoughts?

Theresa