[modoasis] nada's chaos-making I better not respond mess

[Guest guest]

Geez, you won't believe it - yes you will.

Daughter and I have been pretty good recovering from the fact that

daughter does not get to show the horses. We're trying to make new

friends and all. Doin' pretty good. You already know about nada

sitting in daughter's youth bible class and trying to win everyone

over with cookies.

Well, daughter and I decided to call a couple of her friends b/c

dauther really wanted to go see Batman movie. So, we told them after

church we'd go get them. We went to church in town b/c we were fund

raising at the other church that's further away in the morning and we

were too pooped to pop to drive that far again. Got to hear the new

priest at the church in town, which daughter had been wanting to do.

Well, she came in late, but grannada came to the same Mass and sat in

the pews across the aisle. Did not bother me but I saw daughter keep

glaring over there and I could tell she was upset. I wondered why b/c

we know nada shows up to these things. WAsn't until Mass was nearly

over that I found out. Nada came to church with 2 girls from the

homeschool group nada is infiltrating; worst part is one is a

daughter of my daughter's confirmation sponsor. So I guess nada has

convinced daughter's confirmation sponsor I am being mean or whatever.

Well, when I saw them I knew what was up. Nada had just come back

from the horse show and she had those 2 girls go show the horses.

Now daughter and I know those horses are owned by nada so she has a

right to have whomever show them. But, it's not right that she gets

daughter's " friends " to do it. It would not bohter us if she found

someone not connected to us to do it. So, I really can't understand

how all these types of things that borderlines do is just not plotted

or carefully calculated. It is. She is trying to trap us in her

chaos world by doing this stuff.

After Mass was over we went to the lobby to meet up with one friend

who was going to the movies with us. Guess who comes in the lobby -

nada and the 2 homeschool " friends. " Now daughter glaringly asked

one of the girls how the horses were doing. They just nonchalantly

say " Oh, fine. We had to get him up to par after being rusty for so

long, but he is doing good " Nada said, " look who's behind you "

She wanted daughter to see other homeschool girl (these 2 homeschool

girls who went to show the horses are cousins). They both hugged my

daughter. All the body language, etc. told me that the girls think

that daughter is not allowed to see her horses as that's the typical

story. I probably made an error by not recognizing the 2 girls. I

did not say " hi " or anything. I just was kind of in a shock and

ready to run. I cut it all short by saying to daughter " REady to go?

Ok " and started taking off. Daughter and the girl who was going to

the movie with us just had to follow me b/c I was outta there.

Later I told daughter I would ask my therapist, but she may have to

tell people like those 2 girls what she thinks instead of just saying

" hi, how are the horses " and they think it's all friendly and stuff.

Well, daughter told me " If you noticed, I was not happy when I asked "

I asked her what she meant b/c I was not really looking. She said she

glared at them when she asked. I told her that they did not pick up

on it so she must not have looked mean enough. Daughter says she

wants to email her sponsor. So do I - I want to email both these

parents but I may not get to. I will see what my therapist says. I

think it's a nada trap if I do. At the same time I am so ticked. I

guess I just have to get over it. Worst part is one of those girls

has seen some of nada's bad behavior and even commented on it. I

guess since it's been a couple of years she has forgotten. Now try

to get daughter with these girls in the past - it did not happen, but

nada can arrange them to be with daughter's horses! They have no

time for daughter, but time for her horses.

Now I am worried about the priest who said he fully supported us. I

am doubting that he either really does or that nada has gotten to him.

She probably mailed him that stupid letter from her previous

therapist with her diagnosis of depression and therapist telling me at

no point did she tell me nada had borderline. Of course that letter

was written after nada threatened to sue her. Everyone but me and my

sister do not know about that part. If he got the letter thinking it

from a professional and all he may start to think I am the one causing

all the trouble. I don't know any more. If we lose his support it

will be quite devastating. I still don't see how all this is

supposedly not calculated. That's all nada has to do is sit around

all day and night and calculate how to do this stuff.

needless to say, at least we enjoyed the movie last night. I could

not focus on it in the beginning but finally was able to.

Man I hate feeling like I am bound and gagged and can't do anything.

In our state you can't really file a thing for harassment unless it's

a physical threat. So meanwhile nada must know that ( I am sure she

called and checked) and so continues to harass.

Ugh. I hope I get in to see the therapist this week. It's so hard to

focus on what I gotta do with all the monkey wrenches being thrown

Theresa