Re: Re: Why I can't breathe

[Guest guest]

I know curiosity kills the cat, but I would just throw them in the

garbage. You know what she is going to say in the darn things so you

really already know, so just throw them in the round file! How old

are your kids?

Theresa

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> Hi All,

> Well I've been waiting for the proverbial s_ _ _ to hit the

> proverbial fan. After big blowout in April when Nada split me bad

> relations have been very difficult. I would call her every week to

> update her on kids and invite her over (she lives around the block).

> I won't go there because of BP brother. Then I informed her that if

> she wanted relations to get better between us she needed to make an

> effort, so she would call. I thought our phone conversations were

> getting better but I guess because they were too surfaced and light

> for her Translation-I wouldn't let her dump on me, she stopped taking

> or returning my calls. (I also think BP brother has something to do

> with this) Okay today arrives two Christmas cards in the mail, One

> for my son and one for my daughter. In the past we always got a card

> for the family addressed to me and my husband.

> Now this is why I CAN'T BREATHE!!!! I guess I'm doing better than in

> the past because it was only two hours ago -I'm calm- and either I'm

> in denial or I'm beginning to detach. I haven't given the cards to

> my kids yet because I can't bear to open them and I must do this

> first because every card she's given my daughter since I split bad

> has had some nasty comment in it which is designed to make me look

> bad.

> I have no idea why I'm telling you all this. I just wish I could

> breathe. I'll let you know more when I open these cards. . .

> Nadas, I promised myself I wouldn't let her ruin this Christmas for

> me!!!

> Maybe I shouldn't oprn the darn card!!!!

> cntbreathe

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[Guest guest]

You could also have someone else read the cards instead of you, like a

husband or something. Just an idea.

Theresa

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>

> Hi Theresa,

> Yes that thought is definately on my mind, I've actually done that

> with previous things she's given me. I guess part of what I'm

> pondering is I don't want to be controlling like her. I want to try

> to do the right thing. I'm contemplating reading them, deleting any

> hurtful information then giving them to the children because I don't

> want her or the kids to think I'm not letting her have a relationship

> with them. She won't return my phone calls communicate with me but

> wants the children to think it's me that won't communicate with her.

> I'd just like to resolve this thing by feeling I did the right thing

> because that's all I have is to face my self when I'm alone. I need

> to be able to face myself.

> I might not look at them until after the weekend so I have time to

> calm down and also so I don't have to be hurt all weekend.

> cntbreathe

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>

> > I know curiosity kills the cat, but I would just throw them in the

> > garbage. You know what she is going to say in the darn things so

> you

> > really already know, so just throw them in the round file! How old

> > are your kids?

> >

> > Theresa

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> >

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>

> Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner

> " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via

1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to:

> http://www.BPDCentral.com

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