[modoasis]Fwd: letter - my response

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Like I said, I never said that you said to me she had borderline

personality, so why is that in there?

I noticed there are a couple of open ends in a couple of parts of the

letter so as to not directly say anything but in which it's possible

one could infer there is more than what you are stating in words

Also, this part, .... " is typically not beneficial for families to

experience emotional cut-offs in which a family member (or members) no

longer has any type of contact with another member(s) of the family "

How could you possibly know enough about our case, espe in regards to

the hell my daughter and I have been through for the past SEVERAL

YEARS. This is not something that started when mom's mother died.

She always says that, but it's gone back to MANY YEARS before that.

Your statement makes ZERO sense in our case. If you understood a

smigeon about borderline personality you would understand that

SURVIVAL for me and my daughter is absolutely essential, and in this

case, as in trying to save a drowning person, you cannot let yourself

drown along with the one who is drowning. Staying in contact

with my mother is soul suicide for my daughter and I. I do not see

how you could possibly think my daughter and I are supposed to put up

with all that. Her problem is not something that is going to be

fixed with a little meds and a little psychotherapy. Look up DBT and

see how involved that is.

I mailed you info about this type of stuff written by a used to be

borderline personality who admitted it was necessary for them to lose

contact with people they loved before they decided to straighten up.

If you want to do me any favors, do not relay to my mother that you

emailed me this letter she wrote you just because you are afraid she

will sue you. Do not send it certified, either. She is no longer

your patient so why do you want to please her? Tell her to take a

hike in so many words - that's the best thing to do. As you can see,

she is not really interested in you sending me a letter; rather, she

was interested in getting this letter in her hands so she could call

up the whole world and tell them what it says. I myself really do not

appreciate that at all. I will find out if you relayed anything to

her and I will not be happy at all. It will just make my resentment

for her even greater.

Just because she sends you a written request to send me a letter does

NOT mean you have to comply. What kind of sorry excuse is that?

She wants to sue you - why do you take that so heavy? She could not

prove anything. She tells you stories about what I said so that she

could bully you into writing a letter so she could use it against me.

She bullied you into it and it's really a huge disservice to me and

my daughter.

DID YOU KNOW SHE WANTS TO CALL CPS on me ? Of course not. You don't

know how crazy she really is, apparently.

The best thing that could happen to me and my daughter is that my

mother move to Alaska, honest.

I really want to know what you think about this - Why should my

daughter and I have to continue to put up with verbal and emotional

abuse and blackmail? Do you think we have to just because she is a

relative. I DON'T THINK SO !!!! If I had enough energy I would be

moving far away. Matter of fact that's the next thing I will tell my

mother. If she wants to continue to harass us.

There will be NO reconciliation as long as she continues (and she will

continue as long as she gets letters like this from you, etc) to think

that everyone in her family are just mean and evil, and that she is

just some poor victim suffering under our evilness. You unkowingly

furthered her hopelessly endless cause so that there cannot be a

possibility of reconciliation.

If you knew the letter would stir up more difficulty why did you send

it anyway? Why wimp out and cave under a bully?

Theresa