[modoasis] nada wants to call CPS

[Guest guest]

Wow, I found out from a friend who talked with nada . This friend

only answered the phone b/c she was curious as to what nada had to say

after all this time. She said nada went to talk to the sheriff who

lives down the street asking if she could call CPS on me b/c I am

keeping my daughter from being with other people. Well, according to

my dad a few months ago, the sheriff already knows my mom is a fruit

loop. friend instant messaged me and said mom told her the sheriff

said she did not have enough of anything to be able to file a

complaint. So yep, to me that means he knows she is a fruit loop

borderlines are just nuts. Don't want you to leave them but they make

your life so miserable you have no choice.

Nada has now been trying to spy on daughter to figure out who this boy

is that daughter is interested in. Well, she spied on me and sister,

so why not? Yes, it was a girl scout troop leader who apparently

mentioned Katrina being interested in a boy to nada. I failed to

inform the leader that we are no longer in contact with nada, so after

this incident I emailed both leaders and asked them to not give any

more info to nada etc etc

I mentioned the CPS thing to one of them - the one who never talked

much to my nada - that oughtta make her just about flip

Theresa

[Guest guest]

ugh I do hope that the sheriff told her to mind her own business.

When I was pregnant with son, nada called the local police and told them I was

being abused, had had a botched abortion all on account of my husband.

Fortunately I had been talking to a therapist by phone about her behavior and my

inability to handle her so they got clued in pretty quickly by the therapist.

I was on bed rest throughout the pregnancy my bp was way way up and I wasn't

allowed to do anything.

>borderlines are just nuts. Don't want you to leave them but they make

your life so miserable you have no choice

That's exactly true! They are so afraid of abandonment that their actions push

away the very people they are afraid of losing.

[Guest guest]

Theresa,

I know there are already a few St. Theresas in the books, but you may well

qualify someday!

Your nada is just a raving lunatic! (I'm sorry -- that's really awful, but

I can't even begin to understand this, and sometimes despite my BEST

efforts, it's REALLY hard to remember that this is a very serious mental

illness that they can't control, since they are SO

controlling/devious/plotting/manipulative. It's hard to remember sometimes

for me that it comes from a devastating place of pain and lack of self. I

really try hard to remember, but when I hear things like this I tend to

start to feel like " Who even cares if it's a mental illness? They need to

just cut it out! " )

I apologize for that little rant.

Anyway -- this just is horrible. Even though nobody will probably take her

seriously, it's REALLY got to hurt. It's also such classic projection that

they may need to start quoting this one in the psychology manuals as a

textbook example!

And then the showing up at church and parking outside -- like lying in

wait for prey. It just is treacherous. It's not nice. It's mean and

rotten, and I cannot believe the gracefulness with which you carry

yourself through this. I would be ready to pull my hair out.

You are SO clearly a good mother. If only in the way you cope with nada in

the presence of your daughter. But that's NOT all you do. You ALWAYS

mention your daughter's feelings. I remember you writing about talking to

your daughter about grandnada and really exploring her feelings and

opinions and making the NC decision together, etc. That is SUCH good

parenting, and obviously with all of the activities etc that you share

with your daughter, nobody could possibly see all those things that you

tell us about and believe a word she says, but still. OH! It's SO hurtful

and spiteful and mean.

Unfortunately, it's not surprising.

But that still doesn't excuse it, and neither frankly does the BPD. BPD

*explains* it, but it doesn't *excuse* it, and calling CPS or trying to

come between you and daughter is just plain awful.

You are really a pillar of strength and an inspiration. I would love to

have you as a mom. Want to adopt a 37-year old? ;-)

Keep on keeping on. You rock! -- Ella