Sylvia's Nada/ party and my nada's demands

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" But I am doing what I can do - learning to accept the reality and

making a life for myself that is the way I want it to be, and not

allowing toxic people into that life.

Thanks all, for being here,

Sylvia "

**** Sylvia, I thought that you handled that very nicely- especially

going back to talk to you son after you initially said yes- at least

just to get your true thoughts and feelings across.

I know that it will be easier now that nada isn't coming to the party,

but you will still have to deal with the ex. Is there any reason why

you can't just leave and go out after being at the party for awhile? I

know it is your home, but you don't have to be there the entire time-

you could go off and do something nice for yourself, like a pedicure

or a movie. You will have been there for your grandson, and it will

give your son time to be responsible for the party too. Just a thought.

I know what you mean about feeling rotten even when you haven't talked

to nada. Mine called today and left a message, " Please call me when

you get home, I need some information. " Yeah, I felt slimed! I was

annoyed that with her passive aggressive tact- can't just say WHAT the

information that she needs is, she has to be evasive, create drama and

curiousity. Ugh. Couldn't just say, " Hi, could you call me, I need to

know blah, blah, blah. WELL TOUGH! I am not calling her.

DH said, " Aren't you going to call? "

Me: " Why? "

DH " " Because she is your mother. "

Me: " I don't care who she is, I don't want to talk to her and I don't

feel any need or desire to call her. I am not curious about what she

wants- I really don't care. If she can't state what she needs, then I

can't bother to return the call. I am not in the mood to be abused by

her or play her silly games!If you are curious then you can call and

speak to her yourself. "

Whew, that was a lot for me to come up with- the courage, etc... but I

still fely slimed by her and mad that she can't just be " normal " . ICK!

Of course, DH said that he didn't want to call her either, so now we

will have to see what happens. I have never not returned her calls

because then I would be the horrible, ungrateful bee-otch that she

says I am. Maybe I am ready to try on those bee-otch shoes?

Hey, maybe that was Dorothy's problem all along- she put on the damn

withches shoes! Or wait, if I put on the bee-otch shoes, then I can

click my heels and escape OZ!!!!!! Never to have to deal with the

wicked witch/nada again!

Di.