[modoasis] 2-way street, both with dead ends

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Hey! Today actuallystarted out ok, except daughter with sore throat

so I had to mow the back and front yard (we have a huge yard). I was

having fun, though - as long as my lawn mower starts, I am happy.

Finally finished up and came in thinking I could take a shower. I

heard the answering machine beeping. Uhoh. I listened to it. It had

nada on there saying how she had left a note on the flowers she left

yesterday for my daughter's birthday, and that in the note it said she

was having the youth director from the church down the road come over

to eat lunch today for my daughter's birthday, and she said, " It's up

to you whether you are going to show up " So, either I show up and

get ensnared in nada's trap just by showing up, or I don't show up and

look like an idiot. I chose looking like an idiot b/c I am almost

used to that one by now. I woke daughter up to come with me to run

errands and explained to her what was going on. She thinks her youth

director will believe her if she says there is something weird going

on with grandma (most likely she would but who knows). Now daughter

wants to go to the adult bible class tonight so I don't want to stop

her, but I know who is going to be there. So, I am writing a note for

daughter to give to priest who teaches class. Only thing is I don't

know what to do about the fact that nada will go and sit next to

daughter and write her notes and talk to her, except that I told

daughter I am writing a note to grandma and could she handle giving it

to her. Daughter said yes. So I am also writing a note to grandma in

case she shows up, saying something like: " We are in no contact.

What that means is

1. Don't approach me or daughter in public or private.

2. Dont' come to my house.

3. Don't call my phone number.

4. Don't send other people to my house.

5. Don't have other people call my phone number.

6. Don't write us notes b/c we don't read them.

7. Don't have other people call you when they see daughter somewhere

whatever else goes in the list, then say something like " If you

continue to not follow the no contact, I am likely to move far away "

Well, that's the best I could come up with in a hurry so far.

Yes, see how nada sets up these tactics so I lose either way. And she

thinks she does not have a disorder.

I found out from sis that nada found my dad's cell phone and he was

royally MAJORLY ticked to the point of shaking. Sis asked nada, " How

did you find the cell phone? " Nada said, " I searched his truck "

Not only that, but she contacted a relative where dad had been staying

and asked the woman (wife of dad's brother) why she knew dad was over

there but the woman denied knowing. The woman said, " He is family and

apparently he didnot want anyone to know, " to which nada said, " And

what am I? " To which the woman said, " You're like me - an inlaw "

Interesting.

Theresa