Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 > > From reading the posts this early am, I think a good topic for > discussion might be the " second-guessing " flea. Anybody? > > - Edith > WTO List Manager > I assume the second guessing comment was in part due to a post of mine. Of course, coming to that assumption involved second guessing. Maybe this is a practice in second guessing. Why would we be asked to address this topic? And for whom does it apply? To interact with people involves second guessing or assumptions. Unless we ask for every possible bit of information and their motives and rationale we must fill in some blanks. But I suppose it is better to let one's therapist come to these conclusions. It probably isn't appropriate for this list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 Hey group! I would say I am quite infested with the second-guessing flea! It means that because Nada continually told me that my perceptions, emotions, beliefs, and opinions were WRONG or that my understanding or memory of a thing was MISINTERPRETED, that as an adult I struggle to trust my own perceptions and ideas. It's like that part of my brain has been wired wrong. I also tend to feel GUILTY or FRIGHTENED when I have different needs or emotions, because I am so accustomed to AGREEING with Nada's ditortions. Blessings, > > > > From reading the posts this early am, I think a good topic for > > discussion might be the " second-guessing " flea. Anybody? > > > > - Edith > > WTO List Manager > > > I assume the second guessing comment was in part due to a post of > mine. Of course, coming to that assumption involved second guessing. > Maybe this is a practice in second guessing. Why would we be asked > to address this topic? And for whom does it apply? > > To interact with people involves second guessing or assumptions. > Unless we ask for every possible bit of information and their > motives and rationale we must fill in some blanks. But I suppose it > is better to let one's therapist come to these conclusions. It > probably isn't appropriate for this list. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 I assume the second guessing comment was in part due to a post of mine. Of course, coming to that assumption involved second guessing. Maybe this is a practice in second guessing. Why would we be asked to address this topic? And for whom does it apply? To interact with people involves second guessing or assumptions. unless we ask for every possible bit of information and their motives and rationale we must fill in some blanks. But I suppose it is better to let one's therapist come to these conclusions. It probably isn't appropriate for this list. ***ROFLMBO!!! this was inspiring,..or genius,..ok both. :0) :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 Hey, I had this flea! I would do this to my husband (high functioning ubp). I'd think I'd know what his reaction was going to be (and maybe it was based on his own behavior)but of course it backfired because he isn't the same in every situation every time. I started a lot of fights doing this. I was trying to protect myself and our son but only caused more grief in our home trying to control my husband like that. After I read SWOE I knew how to set limits in the right way and things got better. And then looking back I saw what I'd been doing. Lark > > > > > > From reading the posts this early am, I think a good topic for > > > discussion might be the " second-guessing " flea. Anybody? > > > > > > - Edith > > > WTO List Manager > > > > > I assume the second guessing comment was in part due to a post of > > mine. Of course, coming to that assumption involved second > guessing. > > Maybe this is a practice in second guessing. Why would we be asked > > to address this topic? And for whom does it apply? > > > > To interact with people involves second guessing or assumptions. > > Unless we ask for every possible bit of information and their > > motives and rationale we must fill in some blanks. But I suppose it > > is better to let one's therapist come to these conclusions. It > > probably isn't appropriate for this list. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2004 Report Share Posted July 28, 2004 Me too. And I appreciate hearing you say this. It helps me see it clearly. Kit Kit > > > > > > From reading the posts this early am, I think a good topic for > > > discussion might be the " second-guessing " flea. Anybody? > > > > > > - Edith > > > WTO List Manager > > > > > I assume the second guessing comment was in part due to a post of > > mine. Of course, coming to that assumption involved second > guessing. > > Maybe this is a practice in second guessing. Why would we be asked > > to address this topic? And for whom does it apply? > > > > To interact with people involves second guessing or assumptions. > > Unless we ask for every possible bit of information and their > > motives and rationale we must fill in some blanks. But I suppose it > > is better to let one's therapist come to these conclusions. It > > probably isn't appropriate for this list. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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