Guest guest Posted July 25, 2004 Report Share Posted July 25, 2004 > When we have some pattern buried deeply within us, we > must become aware of it in order to heal the condition. > Perhaps we begin to mention the condition, to complain > about it or to see it in other people. It rises to the > surface of our attention in some way, and we begin to > relate to it. We often attract a teacher, a friend, a class > or workshop or a book to ourselves that begins to awaken > new ways to approach the dissolving of the problem. ***See, that SEED. Amazing! It's always there, it depends on whether we acknowledge it and WHAT we *choose* to do with it. > Now is the time to acknowledge our responsibility in > having created the situation or condition. I'm not talking > about having guilt, nor about being a " bad person " for > being where you are. I am saying to acknowledge the " power > within you " that transforms our every thought into > experience. In the past we unknowingly used this power to > create things we did not want to experience. We were not > aware of what we were doing. Now, by acknowledging our > responsibility, we *become* aware and learn to use this > power consciously in positive ways for our benefit. *** " Responsibility " . That has become a primary word for me. ***Ok, for those of you who are interesting in bible matters,...isn't it interesting that Adam and Eve were expelled from the garden only after having blamed everyone but themselves. So what really keeps us from " paradise " , our mistakes and/or ignorance,..or what we DO once we they are pointed out or we recognize them ourselves? They didnt take responsibility. Surely they could have easily have been expelled the moment the offense was made. They stood before the Creator and were given an opportunity,...they weren't accused, they were asked a question. The answer is what indicated what the right actions would be for the given situation. Would beinteresting to see how the story would have rea dhad they taken responsibility. Actually,..I think that's there too, when we read the stories where a person DID take responsibility. The pattern continues all through the lessons contained in the stories. What gave a person character was not the absense of faults or sin,..it's what they DID about it,..IF they did anything about it. And if they didn't know WHAT to do about it, they asked for help. Whether one is " religious " or not, beleives in the bible or not, everywhere we look in esteemed ancient writings of all sorts (that seed recognizes something in them on a universal level) the wise men that went before us (our forefathers) have left us clues as to what the path should LOOK like. There are foundational truths that are identical and universally present in almost every religion we have. I beleive that those same truths are also mirrored in the basic concepts of psychology and the sciences,...though it may be hard to see because the concepts are represented in material respresentations. It's there, it just gets lost or overlooked because of our human propensity to put pet PARTS of it as a focus, somtimes greatly and dangerously out of proportion to the whole. That's what " doctrine " is to me,..pet parts of the whole being put into focus,..sometimes dangerously out of balance with the rest of it. BALANCE,..another primary word for me. Isn't that the basic missing component behind " splitting " , the black and white thinking of BPD? I hope I haven't offended anyone here, I AM feeling philosophical today, lol. Just sharing my thoughts from the heart, in a way I find most pleasing and rewarding, writing ,..to REAL people and inviting the reward and insights that can come from the FEEDBACK,..something diaries and journals can't do. I also find it lacking because it's also really hard to develope a relationship with them (jouranls and diaries), it's so dysfunctional in that it's always so one sided. ;0) Anyway, my intent is NOT really to preach, just share where I'm at right now in my perceptions and some of my conclussions thus far,..subject to change of course. :0) Maybe some of you can relate, maybe some of you can't. Take what you need/want and leave the rest. :0) > We give our power to others and use that excuse as our > resistance to changing. We have ideas like: ***Yes, we give our power to others when we blame. > God doesn't approve. > I'm waiting for the stars to say it's okay. > This isn't the right environment. > They won't let me change. > I don't have the right teacher/book/class/tools. > My doctor doesn't want me to. > I can't get time off work. > I don't want to be under their spell. > It's all their fault. > They have to change first. > As soon as I get _________, I'll do it. > You/they don't understand. > I don't want to hurt them. > It's against my upbringing, religion, philosophy. > :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 Yes !!!!!! Thanks, Hope ! But ...... Seriously and without taking anything away from the wonderful words you said..... Something else seems needing to be said. Let me think about this. What is missing ? I think it is that my conviction, still, really, deep down that I am worthless , crazy,non- deserving (you name it) is not just a head thing. It is imprinted on my soul somehow and I have to work out how to get it off. If only it was a simple as plain crooked thinking ! Kit > Hi Kit and all :-) > > Here are some more thoughts on what it means to recognize, > acknowledge, and use your power. > > Hope > > --- from " You Can Heal Your Life " by Louise L. Hay > © 1984,1987 > Hay House Inc., CA...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 Hi , Your mulling over things didn't offend me. I like hearing people's musings as I am always mulling over and musing myself and I find it helpful to hear other people's ideas. What bothers me is idle, unreal chit chat, power games and sheer nastiness - and you certainly didn't do any of that. Kit > > > > When we have some pattern buried deeply within us, we > > must become aware of it in order to heal the condition.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 > Yes !!!!!! Thanks, Hope ! > > But ...... Seriously and without taking anything away from the > wonderful words you said..... Something else seems needing to be said. Let me think about this. What is missing ? I think it is that my conviction, still, really, deep down that I am worthless , crazy,non- deserving (you name it) is not just a head thing. It is imprinted on my soul somehow and I have to work out how to get it off. If only it was a simple as plain crooked thinking ! ***Hi Kit, Have you ever read anything about the first couple years of human developement and the importance of bonding? This thing you mention, about it being imprinted on your soul sounds so much like what is described as the impact of poor bonding,..not being worth (the attention, feeding, diapering, eye contact, playing, etc). I mention it because it might be that direction that might help you find the tools to " fix " (for lack of better words) this deep feeling. Try searches on Attachment Disorder and Attachment Bonding. I've also seen but haven't yet investigated, a term called " Re-Parenting " . I'm not saying you have " Attachment disorder " , you sound far from that. I'm saying the clue for healing might lay in what they know about what's more likely to help in the EXTREME cases. Victroria :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2004 Report Share Posted July 27, 2004 > I think it is that > my conviction, still, really, deep down that I am worthless , > crazy,non- deserving (you name it) is not just a head thing. It is > imprinted on my soul somehow and I have to work out how to get it > off. If only it was a simple as plain crooked thinking ! I know how you feel. my whole life nada told me these things ( I was worthless, no one would love me, I was stupid, ugly etc) It's taken a long time, but when I turned 40, I decided it was a turning point in my life. I KNEW nada was wrong about me, and if she couldn't see it, that's HER loss. I had wonderful friends, and a great husband to help me get through. I still feel worthless/unloved at times, then I have to remind myself of what I DO have in life and what I HAVE accomplished... Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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