Re: First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

[Guest guest]

I have 6 siblings and I am the only autistic. I am not oldest nor am I

youngest.

Kassiane

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Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

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[Guest guest]

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl

don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

hi

i joined this list about a year ago, but really

havent' posted in a very long time.

But to answer your question, i have 3 kids, a son who

is 15 who is NT, then jenna who is almost 7 and

has autism and ocd, and then i have another daughter

who is 2 and is developing typically (has been checked

and tested)My son is from my first marriage and the

girls are from a different relationship (we never married

and are now split up)

I was very scared after finding out jenna had autism, and

then found out i was pregnant...but im SOOOO glad that

i had my little girl, cause she has helped jenna out

soooo much. jenna is learning alot from her. Its kind of

like having twins, but one is 2 and the other is 7...lol

hope this helps!

nancy~

single mom to:

joshua 15 (nt)

jenna 7 on May 29. Autism, OCD

rachelle 2

[Guest guest]

Hi. I have a nine year old daughter with Asperger's Syndrome, but my six year

old daughter is NT. She is the social butterfly that her sister is not. At

least as far as I know she is NT. Michele

First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

[Guest guest]

I have an NT daughter who is almost 6 and girl/boy twins who are

almost 4. My younger daughter has autism.

PennY in Michigan

> Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

[Guest guest]

I to have my oldest undx with traits of the AS , and all my other 3 are dx

with aspergers syndrome.

I to not be to feel that gender will play a role in the chances of future

siblings being born. Yet anything is possible.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

Hi, I have a six yr old daughter, NT. I have a 3 yr old autistic

daughter. I also have a 7 month old daughter, so far NT. I think

many choose to refrain from future pregancies because there is a

greater chance of having additional autistic children and children

with autism need more individualized attention. However, I got

pregnant with Dinah 6 months after Allie's diagnosis. We prayed for

a long time that God's will would be done with our fertility. We

came to the realization in our family that every person is worthy

and a gift, regardless of what individual challenges we possess. And

we wanted to have more than one sibling. It also seems to be

a very good thing for Allie to have the extra people around her.

Debi

I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

[Guest guest]

Another reason that some choose not to have any more children (like me,

for example) is that having a severely autistic child is like having

about 5 children (at least is seems that way to me!), and the autistic

child needs so much attention and all that therapy, supplements, etc.

can be very hard on the finances. I was reading an article not too

long ago which talked about how many parents of first-born autistic

children don't have any more, and there is an official word for it and

everything. It is called " stoppage " .

> Hi, I have a six yr old daughter, NT. I have a 3 yr old autistic

> daughter. I also have a 7 month old daughter, so far NT. I think

> many choose to refrain from future pregancies because there is a

> greater chance of having additional autistic children and children

> with autism need more individualized attention. However, I got

> pregnant with Dinah 6 months after Allie's diagnosis. We prayed for

> a long time that God's will would be done with our fertility. We

> came to the realization in our family that every person is worthy

> and a gift, regardless of what individual challenges we possess. And

> we wanted to have more than one sibling. It also seems to be

> a very good thing for Allie to have the extra people around her.

>

> Debi

>

>

>   I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> > multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> > Thanks.

>

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[Guest guest]

As I said, didn’t happen with me, I had a NT, then autistic then NT,

thank goodness. cherylS

First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non- autistic

sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

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[Guest guest]

Yes i am glad my hannah is a middle child.......even though her older sister

doesn;t pay as much attention to her now, her younger brother does......they

both went and hoped in the bathtub together last night, which is something

they haven;t done for a long time, as Hannah prefers showers now.....

[becoming a big girl......heehe], and they had a ball, so Adam does do her

the world of good, as she really doesn;t have any friends at school, she

just cannot relate to them. cheryl S

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Hi, I have a six yr old daughter, NT. I have a 3 yr old autistic

daughter. I also have a 7 month old daughter, so far NT. I think

many choose to refrain from future pregancies because there is a

greater chance of having additional autistic children and children

with autism need more individualized attention. However, I got

pregnant with Dinah 6 months after Allie's diagnosis. We prayed for

a long time that God's will would be done with our fertility. We

came to the realization in our family that every person is worthy

and a gift, regardless of what individual challenges we possess. And

we wanted to have more than one sibling. It also seems to be

a very good thing for Allie to have the extra people around her.

Debi

I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

[Guest guest]

> Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

[Guest guest]

Hi There!! I have a 13 year old girl who is autistic, but also has a ten year

old daughter who is not. By the time my oldest was diagnosed (at 2 yrs) I was

already pregnant (not planned) with my second. I did alot of praying, but my

youngest is fine and doing things 10 years old do, namely " driving me NUTS " .

Nonetheless, Welcome to the Board!!!!! in CT

First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

[Guest guest]

, my husband & I have similar feelings. It took me awhile to

decide if I wanted to have children. When I got the bug I decided I

only wanted to have one, but ended up w/twins. lol After I had my

girls I started feeling like I wanted another child, but when Sky was

diagnosed I decided against it. I have a hard time juggling

everything & making sure Rain gets the attention she needs also. I

can see her going out of her way to get my attention already. I've

often wondered how some of you moms who have more than 2 children do

it especially when you have 1 or more who has special needs.

Wendie

>

> > Hi, I have a six yr old daughter, NT. I have a 3 yr old autistic

> > daughter. I also have a 7 month old daughter, so far NT. I think

> > many choose to refrain from future pregancies because there is a

> > greater chance of having additional autistic children and children

> > with autism need more individualized attention. However, I got

> > pregnant with Dinah 6 months after Allie's diagnosis. We prayed

for

> > a long time that God's will would be done with our fertility. We

> > came to the realization in our family that every person is worthy

> > and a gift, regardless of what individual challenges we possess.

And

> > we wanted to have more than one sibling. It also seems to

be

> > a very good thing for Allie to have the extra people around her.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> >

> >   I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> > > multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher

first.

> > > Thanks.

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

I think the decision is easier when you have a healthy child

already. I would think if Allie had been my first it would be more

difficult to expect future children to be healthy. As far as " how we

do it " I haven't a clue, either, lol. I read a spam that said your

first child you never leave alone, your second you are okay with

reputable child care and you hide regularly from you kids with 3. It

might sound like a joke, but it's true!!!

Debi

> , my husband & I have similar feelings. It took me awhile to

> decide if I wanted to have children. When I got the bug I decided

I

> only wanted to have one, but ended up w/twins. lol After I had my

> girls I started feeling like I wanted another child, but when Sky

was

> diagnosed I decided against it. I have a hard time juggling

> everything & making sure Rain gets the attention she needs also.

I

> can see her going out of her way to get my attention already.

I've

> often wondered how some of you moms who have more than 2 children

do

> it especially when you have 1 or more who has special needs.

> Wendie

[Guest guest]

I have my daughter first who is PDD-NOS. I had no idea

she was with autism I thought she was just retarted mildly or something.

Then I had my son who is very bright NT and then who is

moderately autistic. IT wasnt until I dealt with that I found out

had it too.

charlene

To: Autism_in_Girls

Sent: Monday, May 19, 2003 9:52 AM

Subject: First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

[Guest guest]

I have two daughters, but my first born was NT and my second daughter is

autistic.

Tracey

nindaninda wrote:

> Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello,

I have 5 children (ages 15yrs - 2yrs old). I can understand your fears. I had

the same fears while I was expecting my last child. My daughter is 5yrs old. We

have a 2yr 2mo son who is fine, he doesn't exhibit any qualities on the autistic

spectrum. I have our early childhood specialist come out so often and evaluate

him. I was constantly worried about this when I first found out that I was

expecting. It also seems that your immediate siblings are concerned about

passing this trait onto their children if they are expecting.

First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

Thanks.

[Guest guest]

Debi, your probaby right about it being easier having a healthy

child. I have to admit there are days when my husband gets home that

I want to run & hide. lol

Wendie

> > , my husband & I have similar feelings. It took me awhile

to

> > decide if I wanted to have children. When I got the bug I

decided

> I

> > only wanted to have one, but ended up w/twins. lol After I had

my

> > girls I started feeling like I wanted another child, but when Sky

> was

> > diagnosed I decided against it. I have a hard time juggling

> > everything & making sure Rain gets the attention she needs also.

> I

> > can see her going out of her way to get my attention already.

> I've

> > often wondered how some of you moms who have more than 2 children

> do

> > it especially when you have 1 or more who has special needs.

> > Wendie

[Guest guest]

Rhonda,

Sky is the youngest by 1 minute & has ASD. I haven't heard of the

second twin out theory. I'll have to look into that. I've only ran

across a handful of parents w/twins that just one is on the spectrum

so I guess I haven't given it much thought. We never saw a

regression in Sky & both girls never had any kind of reaction to

their vaccines. Both girls have been on antibiotics just a few times

so we just believe it was there from the beginning or due to her

being premature.

Wendie

> Your youngest twin is autistic? Have you every heard the " second

twin

> out " theory? Just wondering. My half sister had twins and the

second is

> autistic. However, my nephew was fine and developing quite normal,

> almost advanced in fact, until receiving his MMR. His sister got

hers at

> the same time and did fine. Within three weeks of receiving his, he

> completely regressed, lost all speech, eye contact, the whole nine

yards.

> At the time, I didn't believe the connection was real, just parents

> grasping at straws, now however, I can't just ignore

the " coincidence " .

> Just wondering.

> Rhonda

[Guest guest]

I have a 7 year old autistic daughter and a 4 year old very NT

daughter. The best thing I ever did is have my second daughter, she

is so incredible with her sister. Joanna

> Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

[Guest guest]

When I see and Allie together I always think of the

song " Wind Beneath My Wings " . The year we were in early intervention

was so hard on . To her (who was 4 at the time) it was as if

Allie go to play all the time with teachers while pretty

much had to sit and do nothing. She always felt as if Allie is the

star. Allie's therapists always said that Allie's improvements are

largely due to loving her so much and working with her just

like a therapist. I have a pic from Allie's second birthday (2 weeks

after her dx) and we got her a multi-step toy. The pic is of

doing a hand-over-hand to teach Allie how to manipulate each part.

Debi

The best thing I ever did is have my second daughter, she

> is so incredible with her sister. Joanna

>

[Guest guest]

Even funnier, we believe Kara was a twin, because i lost something at 8

wks, but her pregnancy was intact, so they believed it was a twin.

> I have 3 children.......middle one is autistic. We didn’t realise that

> hannah was autistic when I fell pregnant with Adam.....he is your

> normal

> little 5 year old terror. Her older sister is 10 and fine. Not saying

> you can’ have 2 in a row, but it doesn’t always happen. cherylS

>

> Re: First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

>

>

> Hi There!! I have a 13 year old girl who is autistic, but also has a

> ten year old daughter who is not. By the time my oldest was diagnosed

> (at 2 yrs) I was already pregnant (not planned) with my second. I did

> alot of praying, but my youngest is fine and doing things 10 years old

> do, namely " driving me NUTS " . Nonetheless, Welcome to the Board!!!!!

> in CT

> First-born girl (autistic) and siblings?

>

>

> Hello. I have an autistic daughter who is a first born. Most of

> people in my support group have an autistic boy who has a non-

> autistic sister or brother. People who have aa autistic girl don't

> seem to have any more children. I'm wondering if anybody has a

> daughter who's autistic and her brother or sister who's not

> autistic? I guess I'm wondering if you have more chance of having

> multiple autistic children if you have an autistic daugher first.

> Thanks.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

which was born first?

[Guest guest]

Kara uses throwing up as a weapon and can throwup on her own

thought

> process. kind of like the excorcist. it's quite amusing, but

messy.

> Are you way north in Wisconsin or madison like.

> (mom of Kara)

Im WAY up north...near rhinelander...in

a very tiny town...but its great..and the

school is k-12...nice and small, and the

teachers are wonderful!!! I grew up in

brookfield, which is near milwaukee, and

moved up here about 3 years ago, with my

ex...now we are split, but i stayed here, cause

of the school.(all my family still lives

around the milwaukee area, but i do visit a

couple times a year..about a 4 hour drive one way)

wow, you actually aren't too far from me!

That's funny about her throwing up (well, i guess

not really...lol) jenna HATES to throw up...she

gets very upset when she does it.

hope you and everyone has a nice holiday weekend..

we aren't doing anything...just staying put!!!

nancy~

single mom to:

joshua 15 (nt)

jenna 7 on May 29 (Autism, OCD)

rachelle 2

[Guest guest]

nancy,

by the way, i have a 16 yr old son too, and a 5 yr old boy. my ex

inlaws live by rhinelander ....Dave and Phyliss johnson. they retired

there. karen

> Kara uses throwing up as a weapon and can throwup on her own

> thought

>> process. kind of like the excorcist. it's quite amusing, but

> messy.

>> Are you way north in Wisconsin or madison like.

>> (mom of Kara)

>

>

>

> Im WAY up north...near rhinelander...in

> a very tiny town...but its great..and the

> school is k-12...nice and small, and the

> teachers are wonderful!!! I grew up in

> brookfield, which is near milwaukee, and

> moved up here about 3 years ago, with my

> ex...now we are split, but i stayed here, cause

> of the school.(all my family still lives

> around the milwaukee area, but i do visit a

> couple times a year..about a 4 hour drive one way)

> wow, you actually aren't too far from me!

> That's funny about her throwing up (well, i guess

> not really...lol) jenna HATES to throw up...she

> gets very upset when she does it.

> hope you and everyone has a nice holiday weekend..

> we aren't doing anything...just staying put!!!

> nancy~

> single mom to:

> joshua 15 (nt)

> jenna 7 on May 29 (Autism, OCD)

> rachelle 2

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

nancy,

> by the way, i have a 16 yr old son too, and a 5 yr old boy. my

ex

> inlaws live by rhinelander ....Dave and Phyliss johnson. they

retired

> there. karen

wow...cool...i don't think i know them,

i really don't know many people..stuck in

the house too much..lol...The city i live

in is Crandon about 25 miles from rhinelander.

nancy~

single mom to:

joshua 15 (nt)

jenna 7 on May 29 (Autism, OCD)

rachelle 2