Re: Feeling crappy after therapy

[Guest guest]

Dear M,

I would find a copy of UBM, read your therapist the exceprts that

say a witch nada must be avoided, and NOT spoken to, for the

protection of the child, even if her abuse is only verbal and not

physical. If your therapist still doesn't listen, I would find a

new therapist. Validation is the most important job of a therapist

in my opinion.

Ch

>

>

> Wrote this to go along with a similar post I wrote earlier this is

> kina clarifying my feelings I just need some input/validation

> opinions on what to do here. TOday I had therapy again, I'm

> seriously considering cancelling, I don't think she understands

what

> I need. She seems to think I can get through the damage my nada

> caused (mine is off the chart weird nothing normal about her wish

> they could have left that dar900 xyprexa med on her list of drugs)

> and have a relationhsip with her. NO NO NO NO NO NO. I can get

> through the damage but I'm not going to have a relationship with

> her, who wants a relationship with someone who doesn't accept me

for

> who I've become, and who is goign to always try to screw with my

> family, that is one trait my dog and I share we both are darned

> protective of our loved ones who wants that not me thank you.

I've

> felt a lot of anxiety and physical upset due to this, has anyone

> else had this type of experience with therapy, this isn't the

first

> time a few weeks ago we had a discussion about it, showing her

> Surviving the Borderline Parent and told her that is what I wanted

> to work though. Any thoughts, I'll check int he morning and

hopoing

> to get this taken care of in a few days, I don't want to ruin

> Christmas that is goign to be great since nada isn't invited.

> I may end up doing this with you all's support!

> THanks

> Marie

[Guest guest]

Marie-

I don't have much experience with therapists, but I do know that you

have the right to set a boundary. If not having a relationship with

your Nada is your boundary, then I would think that the therapist

should respect that boundary. She still would have a lot to work on

with you about dealing with how you have been treated by Nada, and

how you can move on in your life, so what does it matter to her? Why

is she pushing the issue with you. I would want to know the answer

to those questions. Does she have any understanding of BPD?

Di.

[Guest guest]

> I would find a copy of UBM, read your therapist the exceprts that

> say a witch nada must be avoided, and NOT spoken to, for the

> protection of the child, even if her abuse is only verbal and not

> physical. If your therapist still doesn't listen, I would find a

> new therapist.

It is not the patient's job to teach the therapist how to do

therapy. I think it is already time for a new therapist.

- Dan

[Guest guest]

>

> Dear M,

>

> I would find a copy of UBM, read your therapist the exceprts that

> say a witch nada must be avoided, and NOT spoken to, for the

> protection of the child, even if her abuse is only verbal and not

> physical. If your therapist still doesn't listen, I would find a

> new therapist. Validation is the most important job of a

therapist

> in my opinion.

>

> Ch

>

WHERE'S MY UBM??!! What page is that on????!!!

K

[Guest guest]

Marie,

Don't you think you should be able to leave your therapist with at

least a little hope and the feeling you are understood and safe at

least there? I sure do.

Les