[modoasis] nada triangulation`

[Guest guest]

Well, since daughter and I have tried to not be in contact with nada,

nada finally quit calling over here, but instead started leaving my

sister (who lives 1000 miles away) about 4 messages a day on her

answering machine. Nada wanted to know if I " approved " of the

therapist who specializes in BPD at a DBT center. Sister told me what

she would tell nada that I said (yes, major triangulation) and told

nada she will not be in the middle any more relaying messages. Sister

told nada that I had not talked to nada about the therapist b/c I was

not going to be calling nada's house any more. Well, after nada's

therapy session and she got home, she left a nasty message on my

answering machine. I really wish I could unhook the answering machine

but need it for other people. B/c I was at work and so I can hear the

answering machine. Nada said something about how she thinks I wish

she would just disappear and that means I am so ungrateful and

unappreciative etc etc and made up some story about how I laughed at

her having to take care of the horses by herself. Fortunately my

answering machine was somehwat full so it did cut her off before her

30-minute message was over. OH - GET THIS ONE - she said " Someday all

these lies are going to come out " What she is talking about here

is the lie of her having BPD as my daughter had posted on her diary

web site that only 4 of her friends looked at, 1 of whom does not even

know who nada is. Nada even got one of daughter's friends (note -

none of these friends stay in real contact with daughter - they all

have sisters to relate to and so don't usually think about daughter

very often) anyway, nada got one of daughter's friends to mail a card

and call daughter. The card said obvious nada things like " Are you

going to have a birthday party? If so, I would like to come " " I have

your confirmation present at my house " and " Do you get to see the

horses much any more? I would really like to come over and work with

them. I don't know what's going on " Obviously nada has been

talking to this kid. Daughter thought all this coincidence when

really I think she is just kind of in denial (poor thing) that her

friends are being caught up into nada's game plan which would mean

they are not really interested in daughter for herself, but only

interested to be around the horses, etc. Man, this was all set up to

be this way long ago by nada. It's so hard to believe these people

don't set out and plan these things, b/c it sure seems like it's all

planned. My therapist said they don't think about cause/effect or

what happens tomorrow - just what they can get out of a particular

person at the moment. Gee, if nada thought I were that way she would

call me selfish. Actually, she does call me selfish so I guess she is

projecting.

One good sign - i had been hoping nada would call other people and

start harassing them now that she does not have me and daughter to

harass. Seems it may be working. One of those " friends " of

daughter's who supposedly went to help nada shave the horse was around

some kids this past weekend at a convention (that my friend went to).

My friend overheard this girl tell another kid, " If you want to call

me, just leave a message. We are NOT answering the phone any more

(rolls eyes) long story " I think that means most likely nada

agitated at least this girl to death, which is a real good sign to me.

NOw if we can get nada to agitate all of them, that would be real

helpful (not that they deserve agitation, but so they can understand

why we are staying away from nada)

Theresa