[modoasis] Daughter's friend answers about BPD

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They have these beliefs all holding up the table, you just have to ask them

questions. If you tell them, it's what you said. If you ask a question,

their answer is the truth. (to them)

Another good question - do you think that breaking windows is the only

outrageous crazy thing she's done?

I wouldn't get into something where you're outright bagging on nada to a 3rd

party, but asking them questions like that will sure help.

You can always put an end to the explanation by saying something like:

" I don't really want to go into the specifics, but you should trust me that

I would not be doing something this extreme unless it was pretty bad, and

the only bad behavior you know about occurred after it was so bad that I had

to take action and have her not be a part of our life for an extended

period. "

I'd also follow with " I'm following recognized psychiatrict advice for

someone who displays the kinds of behaviors she's displayed to people in her

family. "

Tough situation - good luck. Unfortunately moving is starting to seem like a

better option - even if it's only 30 minutes away or so - it seems like your

close proximity is a recurring problem.

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