General thoughts

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Staci, welcome. I have only been a member of this group for a couple of

months but knew right away it was a safe place to ask questions, learn, and

vent about my undiagnosed BP parent. Good for you for seeking out help!

You are not alone.

Vicky, from what I know about BPD, those we think have BPD aren't very

receptive to hearing someone suspects them of having it. I have decided not

to bring it up with my fada - he will need to seek help by his own choice.

Before I realized he probably had BPD, I had sent him clippings of ads for

depression medication, he made it very clear to the family and close friends

he was depressed, and I encouraged him to get help.

I don't know if the rest of you agree, but maybe encouraging a loved one

with BPD to get help for depression, keeping it more general since

depression doesn't have the stigma it used to, might be effective in getting

them to seek professional help. Can't say that it has helped with my fada,

he hasn't sought out help, but it is something I tried.

I talked to my non BP mother about my fada and my aunt and uncle last night.

Although my aunt and uncle are my fada's brother and sister, they have

remained close to my mother. My mother believes that my aunt and uncle will

support whatever choice I make in the amount of contact I have with fada.

Apparently he has had more blow ups directed at them and they clearly see he

has problems. I am beginning to see its probably best to just leave things

alone. If he doesn't reach out to me its probably healthier for me anyway.

I am working my way through Stop Walking on Eggshells and Surviving the

Borderline Parent. Here's to starting a New Year on a good note! Thank you

to everyone who has been so supportive. I am very grateful to have found

this group!

Jeanine