Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 The heck with those negative comments-you all deserve positive affirmation! Those who feel bad about THEMSELVES have to put others down in an attempt to avoid their self-made crisis - good for you getting out of the way so they can suffer what they put on themselves (no use doing anything else anyway it won't change anything). I'm feeling good about myself, so I say.....you're all AWESOME!!! Lydia _____ From: ModOasis [mailto:ModOasis ] On Behalf Of mghue_82 Sent: Monday, June 06, 2005 1:43 PM To: ModOasis Subject: Negative behavior I also realized this morning that my NADA needs me to feel bad about myself; then, she can feel good about herself, i.e., superior. She has a history of putting me down so she can feel good. And she does this by constantly criticizing me and planting those nasty little seeds of doubt. You know, I don't have to feel bad about myself any more. I wrote out a list of all the good things about me and I will post it somewhere to refer to......... ........I recognize this trait in my nada also. Pick, pick, pick, tear down me and anyone else around her so she will appear " better, gooder " blah blah. take care, mg ..........my nada has a real thing for people who smoke. Any time I am with her she finds an opportunity to critize smokers on and on and on. Once we were standing in line at a restaurant in the " waiting to be seated " . The line was divided between smokers and nonsmokers. I do not smoke. When we were seated, nada asked me (all properly self satisfied voice) if I had heard " a remark by the smoking people. I said no and changed the subject. It is so wonderful to learn I can change the subject and guide the conversation away from nada's negative self serving behavior (some times!!!) I remember it had never really seemed like a possibility that I could just walk away, change my phone number, block her number, etc. And when my therapist suggested I do that, a little ray of hope got through and began to melt away all the brainwashing I had been exposed to all my life. ........isn't it wonderful to know that we have options in our life? I do not have to do what nada says, thinks, demands. Awwww, life is sweet. Take care, mg Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: http://www.BPDCentral.com _____ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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