[modoasis] nada still not winning me wi hoover attempt

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WEll, daughter and i had dance recital this Sat; thank goodness nada

came without bringing daughter's ex-girlfriend. Nada did not come

hunt us back stage either, surprisingly.

Then on Sun she went to same church time and same church we did (the

one in town). After church she just HAD to mention taking the horses

to a birthday party and one of daughter's friends (sort of) was coming

to shave a horse this next week. Then she mentioned how dad came home

today. I said, " from where? " She said she had one of his brothers go

hunting for him and it took him 2 times, but finally found him at

another brother's cabin in the woods. I don't know what was said or

whatever to get dad home (or if it was just FOG). I just acted dumb

like I did not know where he was.

BUT today, Mon, was daughter's birthday. We had to go to 8 am Mass

b/c that was the only one scheduled today. Nada just had to hug

daughter after church service (not too abnormal considering it's her

birthday), but then she had to come over and hug me like a teddy bear

or something! she knows I HATE being touched and knows I have not

liked being hugged or kissed for several years (I have not liked it

from her since I was about 12 or 13 or so). It was a total INVASION

of my personal space. I said to her, trying to break free, " get off

me grandma " to which she said, " I am not your grandmother; I am your

mother " to which I said, " whatever. " Now that was in the foyer

where there were a few people. Then we go outside and she starts to

make a semi-scene asking me loud enough for people to hear , " your dad

called you at 8:30 pm the day he left. Why did you not tell me about

it? " I said, " I don't remember him calling " She said that it showed

on his cell phone that he called my house (she must have been up all

night searching through his stuff) and that she askedhim and he said

he called me to tell me to call my sister. I said, " I sure don't

remember any of that " (acting dumb) and she continues to make a

semi-scene by saying how someone he worked with had bought hi m that

cell phone and if I had told her he called she could have found him

sooner. I don't care if she made a scene b/c it does not bother me

and I just hope she makes herself seem kind of idiotic b/c then people

would not think I am the mean one anyway. That was ick moment for

me.

Then hours later she calls and leaves a sing songy happy birthday tune

of her singing to daughter and to same tune says something about how

" We love Theresa, too, even if she does not us " and then some other

thing meant to be an insult while sounding all happy and looney. Then

mentioned how she was going to spend big money to go to a psychologist

to be tested for BPD to show me that she does not have whatever I

think she has. About an hour after that message I felt kind of

nauseous.

Daughter and I went to take the dogs for a walk; i left my garage door

open. On our way back down a street to get to my house, we saw nada's

car driving down a street from where my house is. She had left like

this $60 bouquet of flowers for daughter's birthday with a note.

Daughter looked at note quickly and said, " It's a long one " but

neither one of us have read it yet. Maybe I will just take it to my

therapist this Fri and have her read it. Plus I am going to record

that message.

I wonder if nada can fake results of psych testing if she knows she is

trying to prove me wrong now. Shouldn't good psych testing involve

input from other family members before making a diagnosis?

I am NOT hoovered; I continue to be royally ticked that she stole my

daughter's friend and is still going over there and going out and

watching movies with the girls and stuff; yet they never had much time

for my daughter to go spend time with them. How weird is that. I

don't think I will ever get over being ticked about nada taking over

our homeschool group even if they said for some quack reason that she

is not BPD. I just don't want to have anything to do with her.

I kind of did not figure dad would last long away. He sould have

waited at least several months, I think. Who knows what the brother

who hunted him down said.

Not going to the other horse show this weekend.

Nada just had to give daughter a list of when other horse shows are in

July, etc. Taking it all to my therapist. It's all so ridiculous.

Theresa