Superclean BPD mother too

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My mother also has an obsession with the kitchen being clean. In

fact, no one is supposed to use the oven because it could dirty. Now

the oven has a self-cleaning feature, but it will never be used

because the oven is basically not used. Mother is a recluse, so of

course when Thanksgiving comes every year, she has asked me to

prepare an entire Thanksgiving dinner in my home two hours away and

drive is up to her. We are not welcome to stay for a meal with her

because it would be too much work for her to have company. The crazy

part is that she reheats everything piece by piece in a tiny toaster

oven that is lined with aluminum foil. I remember one year when she

tried to reheat the meal in the regular oven and spilled the turke

gravy all over the oven. She freaked out and from that point on,

never used the oven again. THe kitchen linoleum floors have to be

mopped twice a day and the stainless steel sinks have to be scrubbed

clean three times. She's also obsessive with the laundry and when

she was injured, she refused to allow the help to run the washing

machine. SHe wanted me to drive two hours in each direction to run

the machine for her. How could her help possbily goof up the laundry

if she told them what water temperature to wash everything at? It's

all that " control " stuff. Even when we went to visit her on Mother's

Day, she had me waste one hour looking for an order form in a pile of

papers in the basement; the reality is that the order form could be

reprinted on the computer in under one minute and I had to waste an

hour of my time sifting through piles of paper and books to find

something ridiculous that wasn't even down there. The woman couldn't

even walk down the steps toe put the order form there, so why did she

have me waste that special day looking for a non-existent needle in

the haystack?