[Modoasis] DRAMA to the hilt, almost humorous update on nada drama

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daughter and I have not been in contact with nada since last week

(tried not to be anyway). Of course you guys heard that dad left nada

this past weekend after the drama incident at a grocery store. If you

need updating on that let me know. I posted it so I think it got

through. Daughter and I stayed away from the city this past Sunday -

just went into the city 30 minutes away and looked in a bookstore and

then went to daughter's class and then to church. I WAS SOOOOO glad

that the priest who invited daughter and I to go to World Youth Day in

Germany this summer showed up. I had talked to him on the phone last

week after nada's drama to me about her having the right to go to

Germany, too. The priest had just mentione d he understood there was

some sort of strain between mom and I while we were eating luncch with

him. I know he was fishing but did not give more info. After nada

demanding she go on the trip, I felt I had to give him more info, so I

called him and talked a little and mentioned BPD. He listened but I

think I exhausted him with all this strange new information. I told

him I would email him some info on BPD. i emailed. I knew I would

not hear anything from him until ew went to church again, so here I

was waiting for those couple of days, kind of anxious as to whether

nada calledhim and convinced him I am the looney one.

Well, saw him Sunday and I was so happy he just talked about nada with

me. He mentioned that as he told me on the phone, to keep her from

going to Germany, he would tell her there was no more room for anyone

else to go (which really was not a lie, either). He said she told him

I had some kind of mental disorder. I said, " yes, she has been

telling several people that " He just said " She is a very bright

woman. Woo! " I think the woo meant that he found out she knows how

to argue her way around anything or defeat any point you make. Then

he said " I gather she is rather controlling " Boy, was I glad to hear

that. I tried not to act too overly excited. I am just so happy he

seemed to be able to see through it all, although I also fear he is

not completely convinced yet.

He said he did not read all my emails yet b/c he was just trying to

process the phone messages (from me and nada). I was so relieved,

though. I told him there was a new incident - that my dad is not

around any longer. I just knew nada was going to callhim up and cry

about that one.

Then I get home that Sun night to find this old guy we were just

becoming friends with at church left a message wanting to talk to me

and daughter about my nada. i hated to have to do it, but called him

back. He really is a nice guy. He's just trying to be a normal

helpful guy, but nada got to him Sat morning after church (daughter

and I did not go) and was bawling to him about how I was trying to

stand between her (nada) and my daughter, blah blah blah He is like

" Well, why would they want to do that? " Nada said granddaughter does

not want to take care of her horses any more and nada said she felt

like she could not live like this. So the poor guy felt sorry for

her, of course. I just had to do the ole' " thanks for the concern.

Keep praying forus, but it's a complicated family situation and I

can't go into it " He says " oh, no, I wouldnot want you to go into

it " He said, " of course, I don't have the other side of the story "

as I had hinted to him about that part. Then he stumbled with his

words but got it out: " I just wanted to say be more undersstanding of

her b/c of the way she feels " so I just repeated myself, " Well, keep

praying! i have to help daughter study Biology right now " Finally

got off the phone.

Then I get an email from the mom of the girl who does homeschooling a

couple of classes with my daughter. She said " I guess you already

know by now your mother is calling everyone saying hateful things

about you and your daughter " I said, " No, did not know and don't

usually know unless someone mentions it " She said nada had called

this family's house phone, and 2 of their cell phones and left

looooooong, hateful messages. Good thing they were out of town when

it happened. I told her I would like to record one of the messages so

she is going to let me borrow her cell phone to record it. I mean,

crazy! Calling 3 phones of 1 family! I don't even want to listen

to the message - just have it in case I need it in court some day or

something. This mother told me my nada is crazy and maybe someday

someone will lock her up and throw away the key.

So daughter and I have gone to a different church time during the week

to avoid this for a while as who knows how many people nada hit up -

maybe just that one guy, who knows. My gut instincts are almost

always right. I had a feeling nada would catch onto this soon. She

showed up at the different church time we went to today, all right.

Right after church was over she makes an announcement to everyone in

the little chapel, " if there are any men here who know how to weld a

muffler onto a car, mine needs it done to pass inspection and my

husband has left me " then she sounds like she is going to cry.

OMG!!!! I am thinking to myself, " Run, legs, run! " Daughter and

I almost got out the door but nada had grabbed daughter like she had

not seen her in 12 years and said, " I am so happy to see you! "

Daughter said it was a hard grab as in her neck was still hurting

afterward. Talk about desperate! Well, we got stuck there listening

to part of this drama while one nice lady says, " What do you need?

You need your car fixed? Your husband left you all? " Nada said, " he

left me " I guess the lady does not realize yet that I no longer live

with nada. Nada said she ha dalready talked to both priests at this

church and one said to fill out paperwork to get help from an

organization in terms of labor and possibly money or whatever. The

other priest told her to put most of the bank money into her name and

out of her husband's name. Ha!! My dad does not want the money, so

she can just do that as a mindless exercise.

After she made that announcement, though, I did hear someone say,

" Back to normal again. Here we go " See, we used to go to church at

that time for a long time but got yetlled at by one of the priests for

always being late (b/c nada is ALWAYS late and we always waited on

her, except the priest yelled at me; not her), so I guess they

remember something kooky about nada.

Ok, daughter and I made it to the car only to be approached by nada,

for crying out loud. We are stuck there and nada is acrting like

nothing ever happened. She was talking about how someone thought my

dad was in Georgia, she had been calling everyone to see if they knew

whre he was. She does not know what is going to happen. I think she

knows he left and probably won't be back; just is not stuck in her

mind yet that it's permanent for sure. Then she wants to know if we

will help take care of the animals when she gets a job. I told her to

let me know when she gets a job and we probably could (if she is

working she ain't around so I can handle that). Then she says the

lawn will need to be mowed and she can't do that (geez, I have seen 70

year old ladies mowing the lawn!) She said she does not know how to

start a lawn mower. Well, sometimes gotta be like I was and ask the

neighbor or something. She pretty much acted like nothing happened

except she said " I do not have a personality disorder. You would have

to have a Ph.D. or something diagnose that! " Daughter said when

she grabbed her in church she almost jumped on nada for the nasty

message she left on her friend's family phones. Of course now

daughter is upset with the other friend whose mother is waaaay too

involved and bought out on nada stories b/c her friend says " your

grandma seems normal to me. Was she diagnosed by a doctor? I don't

see how she can have a personality disorder unless she were on really

good meds " Royally ticked daughter off b/c it's like this girl is

believing nada over my daughter.

Not only that, but it was this girl's mother who told me in her email

(when I emailed her to please stop talking about family matters with

my nada) that it sounded to her like I was just anxious about what

other people think.

Ok, so nada calling the whole world after putting on her Xanga diary

web site that only 4 of her friends reads, uh, that doesn't sound like

she is just anxious about what other people think, right? B/c nada

was always telling me that - " you just worry about what other people

will think " and I think that's why that lady said it - it came

straight from nada.

Do you think I could make a jackpot in the box office if I made this

into a movie?

Theresa