introduction- and question about fleas

[Guest guest]

Hi everybody!

I'm so glad that I found a group for adult children of bp at last!!!

(Thank you Edith for helping me to find this :-))

I'm from Europe (so my English might not be that good), I'm in my

middle 30s and my mother is diagnosed with bp. I have known this

since quite a while but didn't realize the significance- we don't

have any books about borderline nons over here- only when I happened

to find some stuff online I realized that this was really something I

could relate to. My mother is in therapy since almost 30 years and

has been diagnosed with many things, but this really makes sense.

I'm only starting to sort out all the effects that she had on me-

I've seen these effects before but now I know why all this therapy

and talking doesn't help- which is painful.

Another thing that happened to me when I started reading about all

the bp traits was that I recognized some of them in myself- I've read

that this picking up traits is called having fleas-

as my mother has always told me that I am the crazy one and has

undermined my sense of reality whenever she could I have this great

fear that she might be right :-((( and reading about the bp traits

makes me completely insecure about myself- what if I am bp myself???

Well, do you know these fears? And what do you do about it? Is there

a test or something that tells me if I am or not (just kidding ;-P)

Well, I hope I find people here who deal with this kind of stuff.

Oh and what exactly do you do to get rid of the fleas? I'm in therapy

since 1 year and it helps a lot but maybe I could learn more from you.

Thanks for listening

whimseyish

[Guest guest]

Dear Whimseyish,

We are from all one country here and that is the country of support. We write in

English and yours is much better than we could all do in any other language.

Welcome. We have over 900 people world-wide on this list and the wisdom and

support I have personally found here could never equal any other info on BPD.

Once we find out what we have been dealing with for many years, it is SO

freeing. Many people introduce themselves and tell a little about what brought

them to this place. Take care.

Otwoma

whimseyish wrote:

Hi everybody!

I'm so glad that I found a group for adult children of bp at last!!!

(Thank you Edith for helping me to find this :-))

I'm from Europe (so my English might not be that good), I'm in my

middle 30s and my mother is diagnosed with bp. I have known this

since quite a while but didn't realize the significance- we don't

have any books about borderline nons over here- only when I happened

to find some stuff online I realized that this was really something I

could relate to. My mother is in therapy since almost 30 years and

has been diagnosed with many things, but this really makes sense.

I'm only starting to sort out all the effects that she had on me-

I've seen these effects before but now I know why all this therapy

and talking doesn't help- which is painful.

Another thing that happened to me when I started reading about all

the bp traits was that I recognized some of them in myself- I've read

that this picking up traits is called having fleas-

as my mother has always told me that I am the crazy one and has

undermined my sense of reality whenever she could I have this great

fear that she might be right :-((( and reading about the bp traits

makes me completely insecure about myself- what if I am bp myself???

Well, do you know these fears? And what do you do about it? Is there

a test or something that tells me if I am or not (just kidding ;-P)

Well, I hope I find people here who deal with this kind of stuff.

Oh and what exactly do you do to get rid of the fleas? I'm in therapy

since 1 year and it helps a lot but maybe I could learn more from you.

Thanks for listening

whimseyish

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[Guest guest]

Hi, and welcome! Being in therapy is the best thing for getting rid

of the fleas. I have heard it said that if you are worried about

being BP, you probably aren't! Does your therapist know your mother

has BP? Having a parent with a personality disorder causes many

problems. But identifying what your problems are, and figuring out

what to do about them is the way to deal with all of this. Keep on

reading and posting when you want to.

Be kind and gentle to yourself,

Sylvia

> Hi everybody!

>

> I'm so glad that I found a group for adult children of bp at

last!!!

> (Thank you Edith for helping me to find this :-))

>

> I'm from Europe (so my English might not be that good), I'm in my

> middle 30s and my mother is diagnosed with bp. I have known this

> since quite a while but didn't realize the significance- we don't

> have any books about borderline nons over here- only when I

happened

> to find some stuff online I realized that this was really something

I

> could relate to. My mother is in therapy since almost 30 years and

> has been diagnosed with many things, but this really makes sense.

> I'm only starting to sort out all the effects that she had on me-

> I've seen these effects before but now I know why all this therapy

> and talking doesn't help- which is painful.

>

> Another thing that happened to me when I started reading about all

> the bp traits was that I recognized some of them in myself- I've

read

> that this picking up traits is called having fleas-

> as my mother has always told me that I am the crazy one and has

> undermined my sense of reality whenever she could I have this great

> fear that she might be right :-((( and reading about the bp traits

> makes me completely insecure about myself- what if I am bp myself???

>

> Well, do you know these fears? And what do you do about it? Is

there

> a test or something that tells me if I am or not (just kidding ;-P)

>

> Well, I hope I find people here who deal with this kind of stuff.

>

> Oh and what exactly do you do to get rid of the fleas? I'm in

therapy

> since 1 year and it helps a lot but maybe I could learn more from

you.

>

> Thanks for listening

> whimseyish

[Guest guest]

Hi, and welcome! Being in therapy is the best thing for getting rid

of the fleas. I have heard it said that if you are worried about

being BP, you probably aren't! Does your therapist know your mother

has BP? Having a parent with a personality disorder causes many

problems. But identifying what your problems are, and figuring out

what to do about them is the way to deal with all of this. Keep on

reading and posting when you want to.

Be kind and gentle to yourself,

Sylvia

> Hi everybody!

>

> I'm so glad that I found a group for adult children of bp at

last!!!

> (Thank you Edith for helping me to find this :-))

>

> I'm from Europe (so my English might not be that good), I'm in my

> middle 30s and my mother is diagnosed with bp. I have known this

> since quite a while but didn't realize the significance- we don't

> have any books about borderline nons over here- only when I

happened

> to find some stuff online I realized that this was really something

I

> could relate to. My mother is in therapy since almost 30 years and

> has been diagnosed with many things, but this really makes sense.

> I'm only starting to sort out all the effects that she had on me-

> I've seen these effects before but now I know why all this therapy

> and talking doesn't help- which is painful.

>

> Another thing that happened to me when I started reading about all

> the bp traits was that I recognized some of them in myself- I've

read

> that this picking up traits is called having fleas-

> as my mother has always told me that I am the crazy one and has

> undermined my sense of reality whenever she could I have this great

> fear that she might be right :-((( and reading about the bp traits

> makes me completely insecure about myself- what if I am bp myself???

>

> Well, do you know these fears? And what do you do about it? Is

there

> a test or something that tells me if I am or not (just kidding ;-P)

>

> Well, I hope I find people here who deal with this kind of stuff.

>

> Oh and what exactly do you do to get rid of the fleas? I'm in

therapy

> since 1 year and it helps a lot but maybe I could learn more from

you.

>

> Thanks for listening

> whimseyish