Re: doors open/shut

[Guest guest]

Sondra, I am so GLAD that you are able to explain these things for us. Abby

to likes the door closed, the only one she doesnt want closed is her bedroom.

Pennie

Abby's Mom

[Guest guest]

Sondra, I am so GLAD that you are able to explain these things for us. Abby

to likes the door closed, the only one she doesnt want closed is her bedroom.

Pennie

Abby's Mom

[Guest guest]

Sondra, I am so GLAD that you are able to explain these things for us. Abby

to likes the door closed, the only one she doesnt want closed is her bedroom.

Pennie

Abby's Mom

[Guest guest]

I can be to share on the door shutting things. I to be one who does not like

the doors open either and it to create such an anxiety in me. Reason being

when the door is open it allows for sudden changes to be in the room meaning

it allows for the flow of noise, people and such to filter in the room ,

things I to not like because it fragments my thinking and processing. I to

like the door shut as it gives me some control of the SAME I need and seek.

Although if the door is to be to get opened and such to much I to might be

to need to escape the whole environment, or meltdown from lack of the

control to make the room stay same for me. I to know there are several on

spectrum who are same in this with the doors. It is like internal rule for

us. It is like if door is open it is broken as the room to stay whole and

intact the door needs shut to make a perfect enclosed room , with the door

open it does not leave the room being symmetrical in some way. These were

just the things I to be to thinked on when I to be to wondered on my own

internal rule on the doors.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

Pennie,

Well to her that is her domain and she wants her only escape route open LOL.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

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[Guest guest]

I would also like to thank you, Sondra. My granddaughter Jackie closes

doors allot. When she gets home from school, she usually runs into her

bedroom and begins to close her bedroom door, and the door that is

between her room and her parents bedroom.

Most of the time, when Jackie is in her bedroom, she always closes the

door....sometimes very, very, firmly, as if to say " Please stay out and

this means YOU " !

I notice the times she closes the door firmly, is usually when there is

someone visiting who will not give her the space she needs. Her other

grandmother, who lovers her dearly, can not seem to control her desire

to hug and kiss Jackie. There have been a few times, when Jackie has

lashed out at her physically, hitting her in the head area when she has

no place to escape to. Otherwise if this happens when grandma is

visiting their home, Jackie seeks the security of her bedroom, slamming

the door closed.

Her son, Jackie's dad, and my daughter, have tried explaining to her,

that this is very upsetting to Jackie, but she still continues to do

this. I would love to be able to grab Jackie and give her hugs and

kisses, but I know this is very upsetting to her. I always ask Jackie

for a kiss and a hug, and most of the time she gives them to me.

Ploveabby@... wrote:

> Sondra, I am so GLAD that you are able to explain these things for us. Abby

> to likes the door closed, the only one she doesnt want closed is her bedroom.

>

> Pennie

> Abby's Mom

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[Guest guest]

I would also like to thank you, Sondra. My granddaughter Jackie closes

doors allot. When she gets home from school, she usually runs into her

bedroom and begins to close her bedroom door, and the door that is

between her room and her parents bedroom.

Most of the time, when Jackie is in her bedroom, she always closes the

door....sometimes very, very, firmly, as if to say " Please stay out and

this means YOU " !

I notice the times she closes the door firmly, is usually when there is

someone visiting who will not give her the space she needs. Her other

grandmother, who lovers her dearly, can not seem to control her desire

to hug and kiss Jackie. There have been a few times, when Jackie has

lashed out at her physically, hitting her in the head area when she has

no place to escape to. Otherwise if this happens when grandma is

visiting their home, Jackie seeks the security of her bedroom, slamming

the door closed.

Her son, Jackie's dad, and my daughter, have tried explaining to her,

that this is very upsetting to Jackie, but she still continues to do

this. I would love to be able to grab Jackie and give her hugs and

kisses, but I know this is very upsetting to her. I always ask Jackie

for a kiss and a hug, and most of the time she gives them to me.

Ploveabby@... wrote:

> Sondra, I am so GLAD that you are able to explain these things for us. Abby

> to likes the door closed, the only one she doesnt want closed is her bedroom.

>

> Pennie

> Abby's Mom

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sondra, thank you for writing about your husband, Sorry I didnt get

to read it ealier as Yahoo has been doing some dumb stuff with my

account. Last night was the first time I was actually getting some

mail. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man. My husband is

wonderful to. He is very quiet till you get to know him and even then

he is still quiet come to think of it. He is so good with Abby,

they are very close. My husband works at a printshop not very

exciting as he says but it pays the bills, sometimes even all of

them! LOL. Some months we just do the " Stair system " ya know, throw

all the bills down the stairs and whichever falls farthest wins and

gets paid!! LOL. Hope you had a nice weekend, Abby has been not

feeling well again, she is back to spikeing fevers and I have yet to

figure out from what. This is the third year in a row about this time

that she will run a low grade fever during the day and spike a high

one at night, my poor little honeybee has had so much blood work down

I hate to take her back again. I am not sure if it is just allergies

and this is how her body reacts? Do you know of or had any experience

with fevers for no reason that re-occur? Also her sensory system is

so mixed up this week, I have associated that with the season change,

but uf you have some other insight please tell me.Thanks.

Pennie

Abby's Mom

> Pennie, the husband is a nut LOL . He is not on spectrum. He to say

living

> with me can be of great challenge but that in true he to be love me

much. He

> can be to feel overwhelmed by the financial drain it causes the

family. He

> is to be much quiet and does not be to talk much about the autism

in the

> family. He does be to not like to talk about the issues of autism

in the

> family too often as he to not be to want to see it as a negative

side to our

> marriage but just a challenge that is for us to be to learn within

the

> marriage to adapt too and he has, and I to be to have. He to say he

to be to

> see my strengths as being more true of me although the challenges

can be a

> real issues too. So he to be to telled me to be to keep the

personal things

> of marriage to be not shared so this to e why I to be to not share

much on

> hims because I to lack knowing the boundaries of what is too much

and not

> enough to share. He is to be of a good gentle loving person though.

He to be

> to work as corrections officer in local state prison. He has been

what

> others might be to term as apergated as he to learned to be to join

us in

> our isolated life styles and fixates along with us but is not on the

> spectrum , he to learn to find things to fill the empty spaces that

NT

> people struggle with, but we with spectrum seek. We are content in

our

> aloneness and NT are not always content in alone time. Yet he

learned to

> find solace in it as he to know that often just hims presence in

the home is

> enough mutual contact for me even if no words are shared.

> Sondra