[Modoasis] IN a bind

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My daughter put on a diary web site of hers (which only 4 of her

friends read) that she is soooo upset b/c her grandma is ruining the

family as she has this borderline personality disorder....

I am sure that was a big mistake; my sister tells me it was anyway.

Daughter was just fed up with her better friend loving grandma and

inviting her to birthday parties and dances, etc etc. Anway, her

friend emailed back saying this:

" So um, yeah, just curious, has your grandma been dignosed by a doctor? She

seems normal to me. I can't see how your grandma could have a personality

disorder. Maybe I'm being nosy but it really doesn't seem like that could be

true unless she was on some REALLY good medication for it. "

Now what occurred was this girl told her mother what was on daughter's

diary page on the web and this is themother i absolutely can't stand

if you guys remember. So that mother told my nada. Nada wants to know

why daughter put that on her diary web page so other people can read

it. Nada told me she was never told by anyone that she was diagnosed

with a personality disorder. See, this is all part of her game plan -

leave any therapist for another one and you practically have a

non-existent diagnosis. So I don't know what to have daughter tell

her friend. My nada was diagnosed BPD, but the therapist did not

tell nada, and I am guessing it's b/c they either don't tell them

directly or she just did not get a chance, b/c she discharged nada for

not following recommendations shortly after that. Now daughter is

frustrated her friend does not really believe her b/c she thinks nada

is so normal. Whatever daughter tells this girl is going to go to her

mother which is going to go to nada.

B/c of this statement of BPD on daughter's page (which is only read by

4 of her friends) nada is calling up everyone, and I mean EVERYONE,

saying hateful things about me and daughter like I am trying to stand

between nada and daughter, and also telling these people she is

concerned that my mental illness has come back.

Now that dad has left nada, I can't fathom going back with her for

anything after she called everyone on the phone and talked to everyone

at church (well, not everyone), just because she can't stand to be

alone. Ain't gonna take much more for me to really consider moving.

Theresa