More ideas on deprogramming nada messages in our brains

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Hi Les and all: I just remembered another tool KO's can use that was

given in the Porcupine book. He suggested anytime you get a criticism

you politely tell the person giving the jab to wait a minute while you

write it down. No other reaction is given. Then you write the

criticism down and tell them you will think about it. He says writing

it down takes it out of you and onto the page where you can analyze

whether it is valid or not. If the person who is critical is really

toxic they find you writing down something every other minute. They

become aware of how often they criticize and you can at least act like

it doesn't bother you at all. Maybe in the night, you could keep a

paper and pencil by the bed. When the unwelcome thoughts come you can

write a short note about them with the plan to look at them later. (

in the light of day) Hopefully the thoughts will be on the paper now

and out of your head. If you decide not to think about it the next

day you can throw your note away or better yet, burn it. Also by

writing it down it belongs to the other person not you and you can

choose how much attention you want to give to it. Just another idea.

Hope it helps someone.

Dee