Guest guest Posted March 21, 2005 Report Share Posted March 21, 2005 It's never too late!! Maybe you could go back to court and ask them to re-open your case! ...though I haven't heard of many policepeople who were very interested if if you think you deserve a ticket - as long as they think you do. LOL But there is always the option to plead NO CONTEST - meaning you are not admitting guilt - you are just not fighting the charges. It costs the same - but gives you a way to stand in your integrity at the same time you hand over the money. I am still not real good at saying NO. I can't remember if I ever tried saying it when I was young. I think I was at an advantage being the youngest child - in that if I observed my older siblings doing something that ticked nada off - I could learn from the " mistake " (ahem) as an observer instead of as the one that got whacked. I've moved up to saying " maybe " through the years. But if you say maybe when you want to say no - it just prolongs the period of discomfort...and ties up energy that could be used in better ways. Free > > > So did you get your speeding ticket on yor motorcycle? > > Hi Free, > > No, I got the ticket in my car while going downhill on the freeway. I > didn't know then how to express to the officer that I didn't believe I > earned it. Using black/white thinking, I accepted the ticket. My car > barely exceeded the speed limit while going downhill. > > I bought my motorcycle later - on my 50th birthday. It was the first toy > I ever bought myself. It was lotsa fun for awhile but I almost got > killed on it so I eventually sold it. > > It was still later that I learned the power of the word " No! " I should > have learned to say " No! " at around 2 yo but my nada perceived my > attempts to use that word as abandonment so she eliminated that word > from my vocabulary. > > I learned to say " No! " when I was in my 60s. I remember practicing in > front of the mirror. I wanted to be able to say " No! " nicely so that I > wouldn't hurt people when I used that word. And, when I finally got > comfortable with it, I said " No! " (nicely) to everything. > > Hmmm, fun memories... > > - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2005 Report Share Posted March 21, 2005 It's never too late!! Maybe you could go back to court and ask them to re-open your case! ...though I haven't heard of many policepeople who were very interested if if you think you deserve a ticket - as long as they think you do. LOL But there is always the option to plead NO CONTEST - meaning you are not admitting guilt - you are just not fighting the charges. It costs the same - but gives you a way to stand in your integrity at the same time you hand over the money. I am still not real good at saying NO. I can't remember if I ever tried saying it when I was young. I think I was at an advantage being the youngest child - in that if I observed my older siblings doing something that ticked nada off - I could learn from the " mistake " (ahem) as an observer instead of as the one that got whacked. I've moved up to saying " maybe " through the years. But if you say maybe when you want to say no - it just prolongs the period of discomfort...and ties up energy that could be used in better ways. Free > > > So did you get your speeding ticket on yor motorcycle? > > Hi Free, > > No, I got the ticket in my car while going downhill on the freeway. I > didn't know then how to express to the officer that I didn't believe I > earned it. Using black/white thinking, I accepted the ticket. My car > barely exceeded the speed limit while going downhill. > > I bought my motorcycle later - on my 50th birthday. It was the first toy > I ever bought myself. It was lotsa fun for awhile but I almost got > killed on it so I eventually sold it. > > It was still later that I learned the power of the word " No! " I should > have learned to say " No! " at around 2 yo but my nada perceived my > attempts to use that word as abandonment so she eliminated that word > from my vocabulary. > > I learned to say " No! " when I was in my 60s. I remember practicing in > front of the mirror. I wanted to be able to say " No! " nicely so that I > wouldn't hurt people when I used that word. And, when I finally got > comfortable with it, I said " No! " (nicely) to everything. > > Hmmm, fun memories... > > - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2005 Report Share Posted March 21, 2005 I got a ticket once for supposedly going through a red light. I told the officer that when I went through the intersection I saw it was a yellow light. He said " From my perspective it was red. " So what that means is it was like the end of the month and he had not given out his ticket quota so from his perspective I went through a red light instead of a yellow one. Boy was that absolutely annoying! And if I were to go to court for that, of course he would win unless he did not show up. Theresa > > > It's never too late!! Maybe you could go back to court and ask them > to re-open your case! ...though I haven't heard of many > policepeople who were very interested if if you think you deserve a > ticket - as long as they think you do. LOL > > But there is always the option to plead NO CONTEST - meaning you are > not admitting guilt - you are just not fighting the charges. It costs > the same - but gives you a way to stand in your integrity at the same > time you hand over the money. > > I am still not real good at saying NO. I can't remember if I ever > tried saying it when I was young. I think I was at an advantage being > the youngest child - in that if I observed my older siblings doing > something that ticked nada off - I could learn from the " mistake " > (ahem) as an observer instead of as the one that got whacked. > > I've moved up to saying " maybe " through the years. But if you say > maybe when you want to say no - it just prolongs the period of > discomfort...and ties up energy that could be used in better ways. > > Free > > > > > > > So did you get your speeding ticket on yor motorcycle? > > > > Hi Free, > > > > No, I got the ticket in my car while going downhill on the freeway. > I > > didn't know then how to express to the officer that I didn't > believe I > > earned it. Using black/white thinking, I accepted the ticket. My > car > > barely exceeded the speed limit while going downhill. > > > > I bought my motorcycle later - on my 50th birthday. It was the > first toy > > I ever bought myself. It was lotsa fun for awhile but I almost got > > killed on it so I eventually sold it. > > > > It was still later that I learned the power of the word " No! " I > should > > have learned to say " No! " at around 2 yo but my nada perceived my > > attempts to use that word as abandonment so she eliminated that > word > > from my vocabulary. > > > > I learned to say " No! " when I was in my 60s. I remember practicing > in > > front of the mirror. I wanted to be able to say " No! " nicely so > that I > > wouldn't hurt people when I used that word. And, when I finally got > > comfortable with it, I said " No! " (nicely) to everything. > > > > Hmmm, fun memories... > > > > - Edith > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2005 Report Share Posted March 21, 2005 I got a ticket once for supposedly going through a red light. I told the officer that when I went through the intersection I saw it was a yellow light. He said " From my perspective it was red. " So what that means is it was like the end of the month and he had not given out his ticket quota so from his perspective I went through a red light instead of a yellow one. Boy was that absolutely annoying! And if I were to go to court for that, of course he would win unless he did not show up. Theresa > > > It's never too late!! Maybe you could go back to court and ask them > to re-open your case! ...though I haven't heard of many > policepeople who were very interested if if you think you deserve a > ticket - as long as they think you do. LOL > > But there is always the option to plead NO CONTEST - meaning you are > not admitting guilt - you are just not fighting the charges. It costs > the same - but gives you a way to stand in your integrity at the same > time you hand over the money. > > I am still not real good at saying NO. I can't remember if I ever > tried saying it when I was young. I think I was at an advantage being > the youngest child - in that if I observed my older siblings doing > something that ticked nada off - I could learn from the " mistake " > (ahem) as an observer instead of as the one that got whacked. > > I've moved up to saying " maybe " through the years. But if you say > maybe when you want to say no - it just prolongs the period of > discomfort...and ties up energy that could be used in better ways. > > Free > > > > > > > So did you get your speeding ticket on yor motorcycle? > > > > Hi Free, > > > > No, I got the ticket in my car while going downhill on the freeway. > I > > didn't know then how to express to the officer that I didn't > believe I > > earned it. Using black/white thinking, I accepted the ticket. My > car > > barely exceeded the speed limit while going downhill. > > > > I bought my motorcycle later - on my 50th birthday. It was the > first toy > > I ever bought myself. It was lotsa fun for awhile but I almost got > > killed on it so I eventually sold it. > > > > It was still later that I learned the power of the word " No! " I > should > > have learned to say " No! " at around 2 yo but my nada perceived my > > attempts to use that word as abandonment so she eliminated that > word > > from my vocabulary. > > > > I learned to say " No! " when I was in my 60s. I remember practicing > in > > front of the mirror. I wanted to be able to say " No! " nicely so > that I > > wouldn't hurt people when I used that word. And, when I finally got > > comfortable with it, I said " No! " (nicely) to everything. > > > > Hmmm, fun memories... > > > > - Edith > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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