[modoasis] let me know if I am thinking right about this

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Daughter got an email from that homeschool group we don't do anything

with b/c daughter never has a ride. This is also the group nada is

mega infiltrating herself with and has the friend my daughter really

likes but never gets to see or talk to much. Anywho, they just sent

an email to all the teens about their service project. It's on aThurs

morn they are coming to nada's house to do yard work. Ok - puts me in

a weird situation. I do not believe daughter and I should have to go

just because it will " look mean " that we don't go and help. From now

on, people can just think I am mean. I had already decided I do not

want to be involved with this group any more b/c of nada trying to

infiltrate it like she has. If nada sends anyone to my house (which

is quite likely) like Katrina's really good friend asking if she is

going to come over, I guess we will just have to say " no, can't do

that today " or something like that. Nada is really good at sending

in the troops like that

Now daughter did send her friend who can't believe nada has a

presonality disorder some information on the personality disorder

asking her friend if she even knew any information on the disorder.

This comes from the advice from someone on this list and I think it

quite a good one. We should not have to continue to pretend

everything is a-ok and nada is just the only suffering human.

Daughter also mentioned tht b/c of the erratic behavior and moods,

that is why my dad finally left. I told daughter before she sent the

email that she undrestood this was definitely going to get back to

nada. She understood and wanted to anyway. I also told her it's

possible she could eventually lose this friend and we could end up

with " bad reputation " so to speak. She still wanted to send it. So,

I believe it was the right thing to do. She approached her friend

about negating her reality by saying that to her friend everything

looks normal, but to family it's a whole different story and that she

is not lying about this stuff and hoped her friend would believe her.

I think she did pretty good. Oh, I give it less than 12 hours

before we somehow find out from nada that she heard about it. Well,

nada knows not to call my house and stuff, so maybe she will hve to

wait longer to show us she knows.

I was so happy this morning - when we went to church, nada was there

of course. Yesterday I had just felt all messed up and upset. In

church, somehow I had this sense of peace just overcome me. I was so

glad b/c I think it means I am finally coming to grips with setting

this boundary stuff and that nada will either come to know she has to

live with that or else SHE risks not seeing us much any more. The

more she tries to infiltrate with daughter's friends and families, the

more we are separating ourselves from her. I was just so glad to

finally feel at peace about it. Seems so odd at the same time. Now

from nada's point of view this would be a false sense of peace coming

from the devil, but who cares any more about her point of view.

Theresa