[modoasis] Daughter's friend answers about BPD

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Hey guys, please give me a response on this one, anything you can

think of. This is my daughter's really good friend who sent back this

email after my daughter explained the BPD stuff. Notice that nada has

completely swayed this family. -Theresa

" First off, I'm sorry if I sounded brash or rude or anything like

that. I didn't mean to seem like I was calling you a liar. It's just that I

was curious because we see your grandma several times a week. She's come

over twice in the last two weeks to watch movies with us and there have been

many times when she's driven my sister around for home school events all in

the last couple of months. I do know a bit about personality disorders,

particularly about BPD. I've done some research because I had to write a

persuasive research paper on Russian tsars and how they all seemed to have

some kind of mental illness. According to Personality Disorders by

Friedland, Chapter 2, Borderline Personality Disorders, symptoms include,

being sexually promiscuous, eating binges, alcohol abuse, over idealization,

violence, self assertiveness and manic-depressive behaviors along with

suicidal attempts and threats. Self mutilating behaviors are very common.

They have love/hate issues. One moment they can love someone to death and

the next hate them to the point of harming them. I'm not a doctor and I

don't know who told you that your grandmother has BPD but as a friend, I'm

going to be honest. Your grandmother is not sexually promiscuous, and she is

not violent, she is not self assertive and from what I've seen (and I see

her often) she does not have manic-depressive behaviors. (bi-polar) And she

is not suicidal but if she is, being with her family is the best thing she

can do and you can do to save her life. I'm not calling you a liar but in

full honesty, I sincerely believe that whoever told you that lied. I'm just

trying to be honest and to be a good friend. I hope and pray that you can

see what a beautiful kind person your grandmother really is.

Didn't you live with your grandmother for 14 years? Didn't she raise

you in your Faith? If she really was a horrible mean person you wouldn't

have the Faith that you have. She passed the Faith on to you. And isn't it

because of her that you have friends you have? She signed you up, paid for,

and drove you around to all the lessons and events that you had to go to.

Katrina, she loves you. Every single time she comes over she mentions you

and says what a wonderful person you are. She thinks of you and says things

like " Oh, Katrina would love that so much! " Think of all the things

she's

done.

Don't confuse pain with gossip. When people are hurting emotionally

they go to the people they love and trust. She shared her pain with you.

That should be an honor, not a burden. You were the only people she trusted

to tell and you are the ones she loves most. She's not insane Katrina, she's

human and what she did was a very human thing to do. She may have done some

crazy things but I believe it was out of desperation. I know that you aren't

allowed to see your grandmother anymore but the bond that she had for you

was stronger than most grandmothers have for their grandchildren. She lived

with you and cared for you for most of your life and then for you to be

taken away was excruciating. If I never got to see someone that I loved that

much, I would do some crazy things too. It's human. It's love. I hope that

maybe this can change your mind. Let me know what you think.

~**~

PS Is that diagnosis in writing? "