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Sharon,

I don't spank my kids because I don't think it is productive. In fact , once I hit Adam (7 yo Aspie) at age 4 because he startred to run into a crowded street. I screamed & got so scared that I smacked his butt to make a point. Well, the focus turned from no running into streets, to "mommy hit me".

My biggest problem with discipline is that I can't discipline my Adam the same as his 9 yo sister & she is always complaining about how unfair it is. Time outs have always worked for her, but not for him. She doesn't understand why she gets sent to her room & he doesn't. Also, I can threaten Kim with " if you do that again no more t.v. (or whatever is appropriate at the time)" but because of Adam's language trouble, he doesn't get it. So if I threaten him, he gets very upset because he thinks the negative thing is going to happen. He is beginning to understand now that it will only happen IF he continues the bad behavior but sometimes he can't help himself. Then, if I don't follow through , I get grief from Kim.

I began reading the book "The Explosive Child", by Ross Greene. It was recommended by my kids' psychiatrist. It starts off with the premise that these kids aren't willfully bad, they just can't help it. He compares them to kids who have trouble reading. They would if they could. Has anyone read this?

Myra

""GROUP POST""

Hello everyone, here's our first group post. How do you discipline your child? What works for you? Do you feel spanking, timeouts, or whatever else work, or do you do something totally differen? My kids have behavior problems. I've heard from others how they need a good spanking and different comments. I don't believe in spanking my kids. It may work for others, but my kids hit and they may misinterpret this as it being o.k. to hit when they are upset. However, time outs didn't work either. I tried rewards but they care less, and it doesn't work. They do have favorite toys, so I discovered that if they misbehave, I put their favorite toys in time out, and they have learned that way. Whatever works will do for me. I think behavior and discipline is something everyone is looking for pointers on, so post away and let's hear what works for you. We all may very well walk away with some great ideas to help us in dealing with our kids, Thank you, God bless, Sharon(moderator)