Nada Call

[Guest guest]

Well, nada has returned from Europe from seeing her dying father,

and just had to call to irritate me.

She called me yesterday and said to me, " Oh your godson asked for

you. He asked if you were in the hospital with the baby and if that

is why you don't go see him. "

OK--Two points on this statement. Firstly, I only saw my godson

once, when he was a few months old---AT THE BAPTISM! I never saw

hime againso I doubt that he would know to ask HER about me or about

me in general. Secondly, this is the first time she mentioned my

pregnancy, and she had to do it by using my godson----sickening!

She was just trying to tell me that her family knows I am pregnant.

Then she said, " Well, he needed you for his boy scout ceremony and

you weren't there. No gofather, no godmother. Poor boy, what a

godmother he has. "

Here I lost it! Firstly, I knew nothing about this ceremony.

Secondy, I am not about to fly to Europe to go to a boy scout

pinning ceremony! Oh, and did I mention I am 6 months pregnant!

I hate that nada always makes it seem like everyone is a poor soul

for having me in their life in any way. Like I am a detriment to

anyone with whom I am associated. It really irritates me that she

thinks I should have gone all the way to Europe for this bloody

function! And I wasn't even aware of it!!!! I could see going over

for a wedding, sure.....but a boy scout ceremony---come on now!

Aside from which, my godson's mother is her BP niece and goddaughter-

--my nasty cousin, who I am sure collaborated with her on this

little guilt fest.

I became the boy's godmother because I was forced to, even though I

said I didn't want to. It is not his fault, but I felt like I was

being reeled in by my cousin for more contact, which I do not want.

The whole family guilted me into it, and then afterwards I found out

that I was chosen over another cousin because according to my

cousin, " She is not presentable and I wouldn't want her to be an

embarrassment to my son. Can you imagine, she doesn't even know

what Chanel is? At least you have all designer clothes and Chanel

bags. " It is nice to see I was chosen for the all the right

reasons, such as love and kindness..... Oh, did I mention I was

single and they also thought I would never get married, (thus

spoiling her little angel). Grrrrrrr!

I feel lousy about it because I have thought a few times that I

would like to maybe send a little something here and there to him,

and have e contact, but unfortunately I don't because it would mean

contact with my cousin and that is a big no-no for me. I just hope

that later on, I could explain to him, that it is not personal and I

never wanted him to feel left out, but I just can't deal with his

mother.

Any insights/ advice?

Hugs to all,

Sofia