Guest guest Posted April 28, 2005 Report Share Posted April 28, 2005 Any woman that is aware of the abuse from her own nada has the potential to go ahead and be a real mom, not a nada. If you are aware of the errors of the past and you WANT to correct them, then you can do it! It may take a little working on some fleas, and no one will ever be a perfect mom, but you can be a great mom! One thing that I have stated before is that I believe that our nada's do not love us unconditionally. When you do have unconditional love, it is hard to participate in abuse. I can't even imagine beating my child as I was beaten. I can't even fathom screaming evil words that will make him feel smaller than a flea. I can't imagine not letting him grow and develop into his own wonderful being. Sure, I get annoyed or irritated as all mother's do (maybe even more so because my son has ADHD), but I deal with it much differently than my nada did/does. And a key for me is that I always aplogize for my temper/crankiness and errors. I readily admit when I have been wrong about something. I let my son know that even adults make mistakes and say/do things that are inappropriate.Those are things that my nada does not, nor ever did do. I think that you, and others here that are learning about BPD, can be great mothers. Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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