Re: Being grown up for your age/younger

November 24, 2004

Yeah, I think so, however I " ve also been told I'm

young for my age. I can understand I had the

freaking hermit for a mother as well as the

queen/waif who wouldn't let me see/do anything.

Her excuse was it's not safe, you'll rot your

brain ect. and we dont' have the money (mind you

we had the money for so many other things unlike

other situations where there honestly is not much

moeny but the kids get what they want anyway)

ANybody else know of the cure of this other than

renting a bunch of movies I missed and catchign

up on experiences I should have had as a kid?

Marie

--- gmat60 wrote:

>

> I wonder if this is common among KOs. I always

> felt ages older than

> my peers. I had lots of common sense and

> thought a lot of what they

> did was ridiculous. In the past, I thought it

> was just because I was

> mostly with adults while growning up.(Both of

> my sisters married when

> I was in the 5th grade.) Now I am wondering

> about the fact that I was

> responsible in my head for my Mom. Probably.

> Interesting idea.

> Be good to yourself, Dee

>

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November 24, 2004

> D,

> Thank you for the encouragement/advice, I already

> gotten my tail in band, that was one of nada an

> my major fights with nada grwoing up. I wanted

> to play in band she refused and came up with the

> you wont' practice it's too expensive, the band

> director is an asshole were her shitty excuses,

> wasn't until mid 8th grade/high school that I got

> to start. Turned out somehow the music gene

> skipped my dad and hit me insturmenally, can do

> the insturments mailnly flute but can do trumpet

> a little/piano always wanted to play piano but

> there wasn't a piano in the house got a keyboard

> though and taught myself a little as a kid and

> have decided that time to go back to that. (got

> his sister instead). I should say screw everyone

> who said no it will rot your brain (video games)

> and go buy me one of those nintendo game things,

> I wanted one as a kid and loved playing it at my

> friend's house and when I babysat I played them

> too after the kids went to bed. I know plenty of

> guys who do the video games still so I wouln't be

> too far out of sync except I suck at them because

> of lack of experience. After all it's not the

> game itself that rots your brain it is spending

> too much time with it besides it can be better

> than TV just sitting there.

>

> Atleast I'm in the right group with the band

> group then, we have movie parties where we watch

> movies and eat good food and joke around.

Heya Marie,

I am glad that what I wrote was helpful. You know what it's like

with the self-doubt and stuff, often I have to remind myself that what

I have to say is worthwhile ... *because* it's my experience and

therefore good and valid. But anyway. You've mentioned two things

above that you would have liked to do, and sounds like you still want

to do them. I say, go for it! Can you afford to buy a keyboard, or a

flute for yourself? Perhaps take lessons? Nintendo / playstation games

can be great fun, my partner has one (I've never bothered to buy one),

and at times we race cars or do battle with each other. For a while I

was quite addicted to " role playing " adventure games on the

playstation, trying to work out a plot and so on. Don't know about

where you are, but here you can rent them for a weekly fee in video

shops, and libraries have some games too. Oh, and as for the " rot your

brain " - just think of how much time most people spend plugged into

their TV!! Pot calling kettle black, that...

> . Now that I am an adult, I

> > am allowing myself to

> > play as much as I want to, to experience that

> > freedom and joy that I

> > missed out on... like a shrink said to me once,

> > " it's never too late

> > to have a happy childhood " .

> Man you have a smart shrink! I let myself play

> some as long as I get my other work done too.

> THis is exactly where nada gets into trouble with

> me, she inturdes on my play timek she demands it

> for herself not any more nobody can make me

> either.

> Marie

He was pretty good, yeah... wish I was still seeing him sometimes.

Sounds like you are pretty determined - don't let anyone stop you!

And don't sacrifice them because you think you should - it's your

sanity, not hers at stake.

Take care

D

November 24, 2004