Re: Being respected by others/kim

[Guest guest]

Start with a total ban on all negative comments. ALL. No crappy tone of voice,

no sarcasm (comes from greek word to tear flesh) NO put downs, no talking about

shutting mouth, etc. Just say " pretend I'm a client and act accordingly " --- Then

when you get good at guarding yourself you can work on increasing self esteem

and healing. Once you are good at fearless self-protection, as in " how dare you!

I do not allow anyone, least of all those who claim to care about me, to speak

to me in that way " etc. Once you are XENA, you can ease off because it wont

bother you anymore, when other people have feelings or pitch fits or get upset

you can allow them to keep it and not take it on yourself. - jana

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[Guest guest]

Very good advice. Similar to what I have done in the past.

> Start with a total ban on all negative comments. ALL. No crappy

tone of voice, no sarcasm (comes from greek word to tear flesh) NO

put downs, no talking about shutting mouth, etc. Just say " pretend

I'm a client and act accordingly " --- Then when you get good at

guarding yourself you can work on increasing self esteem and

healing. Once you are good at fearless self-protection, as in " how

dare you! I do not allow anyone, least of all those who claim to

care about me, to speak to me in that way " etc. Once you are XENA,

you can ease off because it wont bother you anymore, when other

people have feelings or pitch fits or get upset you can allow them

to keep it and not take it on yourself. - jana

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[Guest guest]

Very good advice. Similar to what I have done in the past.

> Start with a total ban on all negative comments. ALL. No crappy

tone of voice, no sarcasm (comes from greek word to tear flesh) NO

put downs, no talking about shutting mouth, etc. Just say " pretend

I'm a client and act accordingly " --- Then when you get good at

guarding yourself you can work on increasing self esteem and

healing. Once you are good at fearless self-protection, as in " how

dare you! I do not allow anyone, least of all those who claim to

care about me, to speak to me in that way " etc. Once you are XENA,

you can ease off because it wont bother you anymore, when other

people have feelings or pitch fits or get upset you can allow them

to keep it and not take it on yourself. - jana

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[Guest guest]

Very good advice. Similar to what I have done in the past.

> Start with a total ban on all negative comments. ALL. No crappy

tone of voice, no sarcasm (comes from greek word to tear flesh) NO

put downs, no talking about shutting mouth, etc. Just say " pretend

I'm a client and act accordingly " --- Then when you get good at

guarding yourself you can work on increasing self esteem and

healing. Once you are good at fearless self-protection, as in " how

dare you! I do not allow anyone, least of all those who claim to

care about me, to speak to me in that way " etc. Once you are XENA,

you can ease off because it wont bother you anymore, when other

people have feelings or pitch fits or get upset you can allow them

to keep it and not take it on yourself. - jana

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